Recognizing the Connection.

One of the questions I am often asked is, "How can I tell if my loved one is around me?" The truth is, it is possible for the average person to tap into this knowledge, but it's a very subtle thing, and there aren't many resources you can access for reliable information. Yet one thing is for certain: watching TV will not help. A few years ago popular TV shows led everyone to believe a medium could literally SEE and HEAR the dead. You know, like we'd have a straight up conversation with a ghost. (And that the dead could be stuck in spiritual limbo and need to be rescued, I might add.) Now everyone thinks a medium will jump unsuspecting grocery store shoppers and make them cry. Again, not very realistic. It makes for an entertaining show, but it's far from the reality of spiritual connection. 

The easiest way to make a connection with a loved one is by letting it happen naturally. When a Soul doesn't occupy a physical body, they use the energy of thought to communicate. The very first clue you will get when a loved one is connecting with you is a sudden flood of thoughts about them. This most often happens when you least expect it and your mind is busy with another task. It's like being at work on a random Tuesday, with a calculator out, balancing the budget. Then, BOOM! Out of nowhere, you start thinking of your loved one who passed away.

We've all had the experience of randomly thinking of someone right before they call us, and answering the phone with, "Hey! I was just thinking about you! Weird!" That's how this Spirit communication thing works, too!

Our tendency is to dismiss the thought, and return to the task at hand. Yet when we do that, we are likely missing the opportunity to connect more fully with our loved ones. If it seems impossible that it could be that simple, keep in mind, there really are very few Big Bang-type signs from a loved one who has passed. But connection and communication can happen daily if you are willing to accept that most of the communication comes in softly, with no drama; floating on the energy of a thought.

Last week I was out for a bike ride while speaking to my stepmom, Sharon, through a hands-free telephone device. There I was in the hot sun, panting, sweating and trying to ride uphill. We had been talking about cake, when suddenly, I started thinking about her deceased mother.

I paused our cake conversation and asked, "Sharon, how is your mom doing? Have you heard from her lately?"

One of the funny things about being a close friend or family member of mine is we all ask each other if we've "heard from" the dead in the same way we'd ask how any living family member is doing.

"Well, I think she's doing pretty well. I have been thinking a lot about her lately though." 

"Ahh, well I think she wants to pass a message on to you, is that all right with you? She keeps saying Shirley to me, do you know a Shirley?"

"Oh, yes, Shirley is a friend of mine. She's in the hospital and having a really hard time. I visited her yesterday."

Because I was able to recognize the interruptive thought about Sharon's mother as the first sign of connection, I was able to tune in and pass along the message about Shirley. 

You, too, have the ability to connect with your loved ones in a meaningful way--no hands-free device required--and chances are, they are eager to pass along messages to you. There's no need to wait for someone with a camera crew to accost you in the veggie aisle of the grocery store; it's far more subtle than that! Simply pay attention to your thoughts. If you start thinking of a loved one out of the blue, don't dismiss it out of hand. Instead, try saying "Hello!" to them. Then listen, open yourself to the messages that follow. Who knows? Perhaps the connection you've hungered for most has been on hold, just waiting for you to pick up. 

©Mollie Morning Star 2014  Short excerpts of this article may be shared on the internet provided a live link back to this original source is used. Reproduction in print is prohibited. 

Mollie Morning Star

Mollie Morning Star is an evidential psychic medium providing validating afterlife readings to heal grief. She authors a blog focused on spiritual lessons received during medium readings to inspire vibrabt living after the death of a loved one.