One of the great pleasures of my job is sharing the joy when loved ones in Spirit make jokes or recall funny situations that bring up happy memories during a reading. So many people are afraid of mediums, or perhaps it would be more accurate to say they are afraid of what their deceased loved ones might have to say to them during a session. Not too long ago I remember a comment left on my Facebook page from man who said, "Why do dead people always come through so happy and at peace? I don't believe any of this! That is not real! My Dad was an as****e and I know he's not at peace and the last thing I want to do is give him another chance to let me know how disappointed he is in me!"
A bit dramatic, but I have heard similar questions. I have never had anyone in Spirit come through with a negative message or express disappointment in a living family member's choices. My experiences over thousands of connections have all been the same: when a loved one "awakens" in the Spirit world, they are able to view their life and actions in their entirety. This means they are able to see the ripple effects of their choices on their loved ones. Lots of people make bad choices or poor decisions. Many people are grumpy, act like jerks or are even abusive. In every reading, literally...this has never failed: loved ones who have passed over come through to validate the existence of the afterlife and help their living loved ones heal. Often they acknowledge or apologize for hurtful behavior. Sometimes they offer a short explanation of why they acted that way, and it usually has to do with a personal inner struggle. The purpose of an afterlife connection is healing, and to bring forward any hurtful or judgmental information would simply never happen. The connection is precious and sacred, and the energy can only be sustained for minutes. If you were in Spirit, would you wish to tell your hurting, grieving child that they simply didn't live up to your expectations? NO! Of course not! It's all about healing, and there is never a reason to fear the messages that will come forward during a session.
Also, I see people comment on my Facebook page that's it's "creepy" to communicate with the deceased. Now hold on just a minute! When I'm connecting with your loved ones, I'm the one doing the talking, and I am not creepy. I am adorable. :-) Fear not, my friends!
Laughter is the best healer and anyone who has ever attended one of my group events has witnessed that, first-hand. Your loved ones retain their personality and jump at the chance to make a joke and create laughter.
One of my all-time funniest memories happened years ago in a small, private family session. The Dad had passed away, and his wife and children were present for the reading. The evidence was great, and everyone was enjoying the connection, smiling and crying. Near the end, the Dad communicated to me, "Tell them I'm with Mona." When I did, everyone fell over laughing. "Mona" was the Dad's pretend girlfriend, and the family joke was that whenever Dad was out, presumably grocery shopping, or doing some other boring chore, he'd always say he was out with "Mona." Such a fun family! The laughter continued until we all had tears running down our faces. Priceless memories.
There is a lot of value in silliness. It not only breaks up tension, it provides a large dose of healing. If you have ever had a loved one in Spirit play a joke on you, feel free to share it on my Facebook page. I share this article as a blog post and you can also leave your comments there. I'd love to read them, and everyone else in the community will too.
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