Validating the Connection

This is part two to the blog posted on August 5 on Recognizing the Connection. If you missed it, you can read it here.

Now that you are able to recognize those moments when you suddenly become flooded with thoughts of a loved one as the beginning of a spiritual connection, you are going to want to validate that it's really happening. Almost everyone feels a little bit crazy wondering, "Is this real?" when they learn how to connect on the energetic level of mental telepathy.

Personally, I enjoy being a bit crazy. At least I'm not boring. :-) 

To validate the presence of a loved one's Soul in a particular moment, you can rely upon your physical sensations. We have all been sensing and feeling energy our entire lives, and perhaps you have never paused to give it much thought. Think of a time when you visited a place like the Alamo in Texas, or Alcatraz prison in San Francisco. Both of these old jails hold lots of energy, and many people report getting a particular feeling while there. Examples would be having goosebumps, or the "heebie jeebies" or the hair on the back of your neck standing up. Our bodies, in particular our largest organ, the skin, react to energy and create a physical sensation that we can definitely and easily feel. Along the same lines, we can visit a beautiful, sacred space like the Sistine Chapel and feel a profound sense of peace or relaxation while we are there. Now, no one is giving you a shoulder massage or actually touching you, yet, the feeling is very real. 


This reminds me of that old cliche about when there has been a fight in a room, "The air was so thick you could cut it with a knife!" Having a fight can create a huge mass of angry energy, and yes, many people can feel that once it's over! The ancient practice of smudging, or clearing the energy of a space by burning sage, is often used at times like this to spiritually purify an area. I like to smudge my home after a big party, illness or any other disturbance to set the energy back to clear and clean. Sometimes I think the intention is just as good as the actual act of burning sage. I'm not a huge fan of the smoke, and my children used to freak out if I did in their bedrooms screaming, "It's smells like pot in here!" (pretty sure I wouldn't smoke pot in my kid's bedrooms...) Ha! Sometimes I just walk through the room with a spritzer of purified water with orange essential oil in it and use that to clear the energy. It really is about the intention. You can also do it by lighting a candle and offering a prayer or ringing a bell. 

Giving some thought and words to the way you sense and perceive energy on an everyday basis will help you feel the energy of your loved one, which can be a very validating comfort to you. One way that I become aware of the presence of a Soul wishing to communicate is through a very strong sensation, similar to being on an airplane when the cabin is pressurized before take off. It's almost like an energetic buzzing; my heart starts racing and I feel almost as if I'm experiencing anxiety. 

Everyone is unique. Many people have relayed their experiences of feeling the presence of a loved one's Soul to me and this is what they say:

  • "I had a warmth flood over me."
  • "I got the chills!"
  • "I could feel someone gently touch my cheek or shoulder."
  • "I could almost feel my deceased dog brush against my leg."

It's going to be a little different for everyone. My suggestion is this: the next time you become suddenly flooded with thoughts of a loved one, close your eyes and tune in to your body to see if you can validate their presence with you by feeling their Soul energy. If you get really good at this, you may begin to notice that your deceased loved ones all "feel" slightly different to you. We are all unique in our energetic make-up. You can even practice this theory with the living. Often, if you do a blind test, and try to guess which family member is standing behind you, you'll get it right. Try it at your next holiday gathering. 

Next week I'll address part three in this series, which will cover how to receive the communication. 

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Mollie Morning Star

Mollie Morning Star is an evidential psychic medium providing validating afterlife readings to heal grief. She authors a blog focused on spiritual lessons received during medium readings to inspire vibrabt living after the death of a loved one.