Psychic medium mollie morning star is an afterlife and grief blogger offering spiritual support after the death of a loved one

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Transform Your Life with Gratitude.

Last night I arrived home at 11:30 p.m. after driving six very long hours in terrible fog and rain. When I unlocked the back door, I was welcomed by a large plunk of water hitting my head. I looked up to see that the ceiling in my breezeway was leaking, and I mean, BIG TIME. Having been gone for the better part of month on tour, I didn't realize it had gone past the point of no return. Wearily, I put a roasting pan on the floor to catch the water and collapsed into bed ala Scarlett O'Hara telling myself, "Tomorrow is another day." Not surprisingly, around 8 a.m. the ceiling hit the floor along with a loud crash, tons of rain-soaked insulation and an accompanying waterfall. 

Last night I arrived home at 11:30 p.m. after driving six very long hours in terrible fog and rain. When I unlocked the back door, I was welcomed by a large plunk of water hitting my head. I looked up to see that the ceiling in my breezeway was leaking, and I mean, BIG TIME. Having been gone for the better part of month on tour, I didn't realize it had deteriorated past the point of no return. Wearily, I put a roasting pan on the floor to catch the water and collapsed into bed ala Scarlett O'Hara telling myself, "Tomorrow is another day." Not surprisingly, around 8 a.m. the ceiling hit the floor along with a loud crash, tons of rain-soaked insulation and an accompanying waterfall. 

I stood there and surveyed the mess, (I, myself, also a mess) trying to figure out what to do next. Water was pouring in through the hole. Insulation was everywhere. I was completely exhausted and totally apathetic about the situation. The obvious answer was to go to Starbucks for a coffee and post on Facebook that I needed a roofer. By the time I returned with coffee in hand, my best friend had shown up, had called her husband for advice and was ready to help me shovel up the shambles.

She hugged me and gently asked, "Are you alright? I'm so sorry you had to come home to a disaster."

"Yeah, it's all good. Thankfully, it's just a roof; just a ceiling. I have a rainy day fund, which I was hoping to apply toward a sunny vacation, but it's fine. I'm grateful it happened while I was home and I can get it taken care of."  I said, calmly.

Honestly, I was amazed at how unstressed I was and how naturally I found positive aspects of the situation to be glad about. 

Earlier this fall, I realized I was at a stalemate with several issues in my life, and concluded that my only hope for achieving peace was to shift the way I was feeling and thinking about them. I'm no stranger to thinking positively or expressing my appreciation. Deep inside of me, I knew I could free myself further by focusing on whatever was going right and giving thanks for every situation that was occurring whether I thought of it as "good" or "bad."

I found it just a little difficult at first. (Ha!) I recall standing in my garage looking at the banged up front end of my car and trying to say the words, "I'm so thankful I hit the wall while pulling into the garage!" :-)

I am however, thankful to have an attached garage. The snow and ice here in Wisconsin wreaks havoc on a car left parked outside. I'm still thankful even though this dang garage was built in 1923 and is only large enough to fit a MINI Cooper. I am also thankful to my neighbor who came over with a giant wood block and sledgehammer and moved the wall back into its correct place. That was quite a feat! What a great neighbor. 

After that, I started focusing on sending the energy of gratitude to relationships with people in my life that could be improved. Each time I caught myself thinking, "Ugh! This is so frustrating!" I changed it to, "I'm thankful for the birthday card she sent me," or whatever small, specific act of kindness that had previously transpired between us. Within a few weeks, we actually started getting along better. The option to hold a grudge is always there, but wow, they are heavy to hold on to. Gratitude is as light as air.

My life's focus is to help alleviate some of the pain of grieving the loss of a loved one and to give people the tools they need to continue living fulfilled lives after a loss. During the holiday season it is especially easy to fall into depression over what is no longer an option for us, such as simply having time together with a loved one. What we are missing can cause crushing feelings that disable our ability to get through until January 2 with a reasonable level of sanity. 

Here is what might work for you; it really worked for me.

Every time you find yourself slipping into a negative thought or thoughts of what you don't have in the present moment, express your gratitude for something very specific you remember which holds joy for you. 

Change: "I miss my mom so much I can't breathe sometimes."

Into: "I'm so thankful for the butter cookies she always made." (also, go make those cookies!)

Put a full on stop to complaining for the next six weeks. Instead, try something new. Express specific gratitude to everyone you have a conversation with. Recall and hold onto the great memories you have created with living friends and family members. Thank people for things they did five years ago. Everyone craves validation and appreciation.

Make that your gift to everyone this season.

Your thoughts are a living energy that sustains you or drains you. You have the power to shift inferior thoughts to superior ones. You won't be able to put a full stop to your grieving, but think of it like opening the windows after you've badly burned a casserole. The air is clear. You'll breathe a little easier. You'll have a fighting chance of getting through the season feeling thankful instead of miserable. 

Give thanks for everything. Be as specific as possible. 

I'm thankful for all the letters, emails, cards and notes that so many of you have sent me telling me that I've helped you. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving! 



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The Gifts of Grief

It seems like an oxymoron to use the words "gift" and "grief" in the same sentence, yet, we have the free will to choose how we observe any occurrence in life. 

Grief is usually described with every adjective imaginable that symbolizes energy loss. 

In short, it sucks. It sucks our willpower, our joie de vivre, our hope and usually our dreams for the future, too. With time comes knowledge and some objectivity. When the loss is new, it is difficult to see anything resembling an offering from the Universe. Several years down the road however, those who are diligently doing inner spiritual work can list for you several important gifts that were disguised as lessons during the healing process of grieving.

It seems like an oxymoron to use the words "gift" and "grief" in the same sentence, yet, we have the free will to choose how we observe any occurrence in life. 

Grief is usually described with every adjective imaginable that symbolizes energy loss. 

In short, it sucks. It sucks our willpower, our joie de vivre, our hope and usually our dreams for the future, too. With time comes knowledge and some objectivity. When the loss is new, it is difficult to see anything resembling an offering from the Universe. Several years down the road however, those who are diligently doing inner spiritual work can list for you several important gifts that were disguised as lessons during the healing process of grieving.

Here are some of the most profound insights people have shared with me that arose as byproduct of their loss. If you are newly-bereaved, this list may give you hope for days that are a bit further down your path. 

  • A deeper appreciation for the small, positive moments of life. 

When people take a few minutes to reflect upon what they miss about a loved one who has died or left, I hear more about the small things people did than the big ones. The big things a wife might miss about her husband was his ability to take care of her and the family financially. Yet, if you ask her what she misses about him, the answers are always things like, "His roaring laugh." "He woke up before me every morning and made the coffee." "He always called me at lunch time." We may argue that we already appreciate how good we have it when a loved one is alive and well, but the value of such precious moments grows immeasurably when they are a memory instead of a present reality.

 

  • A need to correct misunderstandings as quickly as possible.

Your mother was right when she said not to go to bed angry. People die in their sleep; that's a reality. They also die suddenly from heart attacks, car accidents and natural disasters. There is never a better time to forgive and forget than right now. Reach out to someone with whom you have a discordant relationship, and offer the proverbial olive branch. Perhaps the differences cannot be resolved, but you can always let go with love instead of anger. 

 

  • The ability to let go of differences and most disagreements. 

My good friend Troy often says, "It just doesn't matter." The jewelry from your grandmother that you were supposed to inherit instead of your cousin? It just doesn't matter. That hateful comment posted on social media by someone you hardly know? It just doesn't matter. The friend who refuses to compromise? It just doesn't matter. Move on. Your life energy is more precious than money; be careful how and where you spend it. You could invest a lot of time into petty circumstances and consequently feel drained when something or someone truly worthwhile comes along.

 

  • A reduction in the fear of failure. 

The biggest regrets in life are often the chances we don't take. This is not encouragement to repeat past mistakes; but sometimes our fears of failing, being humiliated, embarrassed, wrong or shamed prevent us from taking necessary risks in life to better our circumstances and relationships. The only guarantee in physical life is eventual death, and when you have dealt with that loss, it's possible to bury some of our fears with our loved ones. Life is meant for living and often the bereaved feel a new vitality surrounding their ability to try things that used to scare them.

 

  • Judgment of others is transformed into compassion. 

When you have had to deal with loss due to suicide, drug abuse or tragic circumstances, your sense of compassion for the person dealing with the challenge/addiction/illness and their loved ones trying to cope with the situation is heightened immeasurably. As a naive person, it's quite easy to view a drug addict with a sense of disgust, but with experience comes wisdom. The ability to see another person for their light, bravery and connection to us through their Soul instead of their circumstances, is one of the most enlightened places from which to view the world. We need to see the addict as a Soul who needs unconditional love; the controlling individual as a Soul who needs additional security; the fearful human as someone who has been hurt and needs to be gently cared for. It always comes back to our collective, basic need for unconditional love. Do you accept that YOU need unconditional love, too? When we are able to let go of judgment in favor of compassion, we are able to give that same grace to ourselves.

In the wake of loss, this transformation gives us powerful new perspective to navigate the many changes of life. 


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The Right Place, The Right Time.

I'm just back from the end of my fall tour which concluded in New England on Sunday. I had such a great time traveling, seeing the autumn colors and making new friends both in the flesh and in Spirit. These intimate group readings truly allow us the opportunity to share these incredible encounters on a personal level with Spirit and one another. 

I'm just back from the end of my fall tour which concluded in New England on Sunday. I had such a great time traveling, seeing the autumn colors and making new friends both in the flesh and in Spirit. These intimate group readings truly allow us the opportunity to share these incredible encounters on a personal level with Spirit and one another. 

Yet from time to time, it's natural for all of us to wonder if we're on the right path. And though I love my job, sometimes the simple desire to sleep in my own bed gets me wondering. Luckily, if I'm ever curious whether I'm in the right place, Spirit always shows up with some wonderful coincidence to show me my path is true. This was the case during my recent travels, and chances are, Spirit reaches out to you the same way, too. 

After landing at Boston Logan airport Thursday evening in dreary rain, my assistant, Mary, and I drove to New Hampshire for the night. We don't have much extra time while on a multi-city tour, but we try to squeeze in an hour or two of local flavor each morning whenever possible. The first night we stayed at an historic inn near Portsmouth, on Castle Island. When the sun came up Friday morning, we looked out the window to see we were surrounded by water, boats and beautiful fall foliage. It was breathtaking and incredibly peaceful. We made our way down to breakfast, which was served in a gorgeous dining room with a domed ceiling, a roaring fire and overstuffed chairs. It was emblematic of quintessential New England charm, and we smiled at each other and stifled a giggle while listening to the valet speak in his thick Boston accent. A young woman came to the table and introduced herself as our server. We remarked about how wonderful the atmosphere was, and how stunning the fall leaves were as they were reflected off the water. I asked if she was from New Hampshire. She said, yes, she lived there most of her life but was born in Wisconsin. With my curiosity piqued, I inquired, "What town?" "Oh, a little place called Sheboygan," she replied. We could hardly believe that the first person we met on the first morning of our trip was from the same small town we had left only hours beforehand! It was a sure sign to me from Spirit that we were in the right place. 

At Castle Island, New Hampshire

At Castle Island, New Hampshire

Another string of interesting coincidences happened while on tour in California three weeks ago which also let me know I was in the right place, at the right time. Flash back to a year ago: I was invited by Marc Mondavi to be a special guest at a wine dinner at the Iron Horse Hotel in Milwaukee, to introduce the release of his label produced by Charles Krug called, The Divining Rod. Marc uses dowsing rods to source water in many of the vineyards in Napa and calls himself a "Water Witch." It was a really fun event, Marc had copper rods for everyone and demonstrated his dowsing methods and I did random readings while everyone enjoyed a fabulous meal. Fast forward to this April, when my ultra-cool, psychic friend, Mark Christopher Nelson, said during a reading that he saw me "At a very special winery" in the near future. 

This brings us up to the present, mid-October, and an amazing coincidence. While on tour in Northern California, a good friend of mine took me to Napa for lunch and a late afternoon drive up the Silverado Trail. The trail is 26-mile scenic route from Napa to Calistoga with vineyard after vineyard. It is absolutely gorgeous in the fall, and with the setting sun illuminating the hills, it was just sensational! Near the end of our drive, I realized the light was nearly gone and I wanted to take some photos. I asked my friend to pull into the next winery. A minute later she pulled into a long driveway, only to round the corner and see a large "Charles Krug" sign. A very special winery indeed! They had closed a few minutes earlier but were kind enough to let us in for a quick look around and a chance to capture a few splendid pictures. I had to shake my head at the connection; I literally have no ties to any winery in Napa (or anywhere else for that matter) so it really delighted me to visit the home of the people I had met the year before at the special wine dinner.

At Charles Krug Vineyard, California. 

At Charles Krug Vineyard, California. 

The string of coincidences got one step more bizarre when a friend, who doesn't know any of this, sent me a quote from a book called "The Divining Rod," by Michael Knight. Okay Universe, I got it! 

The signs are everywhere if we only choose to see them. It's not only about receiving a sign from a loved one who has passed. It could be a road marker, like the signs I received, that in the Divine scheme of things, I was in the right place, at the right time, following my path for the highest good. 

Right now, all my signs are pointing to turkey dinners, festive decorations, cuddles with my kitty and cherished time with family and friends. To all of you who have supported me during my travels this year, I thank you! It was my greatest pleasure and a humble honor to experience your loved ones with you.



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Playing Games with Spirit

When was the last time you had fun talking to a deceased loved one? Strange question, right? All too often when we are longing for a connection, a sign, or some form of communication, we are reaching out in desperation, almost begging our loved ones to acknowledge their presence in our lives. We wait for the lights to flicker, or the photo to fly off the wall...the more dramatic the sign, the closer they are, right? Not so fast...in all of our urgency we often overlook the simple ways they reach out to us every day. Not every butterfly that flutters by is a sign from our departed loved ones, but occasionally, it just might be so. 

When was the last time you had fun talking to a deceased loved one? Strange question, right? All too often when we are longing for a connection, a sign, or some form of communication, we are reaching out in desperation, almost begging our loved ones to acknowledge their presence in our lives. We wait for the lights to flicker, or the photo to fly off the wall...the more dramatic the sign, the closer they are, right? Not so fast...in all of our urgency we often overlook the simple ways they reach out to us every day. Not every butterfly that flutters by is a sign from our departed loved ones, but occasionally, it just might be so. 

The overarching need for our loved ones to communicate with us after death is to assure us they are still alive and connected. That really is it. Their presence, no matter how we manage to feel or perceive it, is serving that purpose. The more serious and desperate we are, the more difficult it is for us to notice the small signs. So for anyone wishing to communicate with a loved one or trying to develop their intuition, I suggest making a game out of it. That's right...play with it! It is a fun way to test your ability and sharpen your awareness. 

One of the best ways I have found to hone intuition is by using oracle cards. These are different from tarot cards in that each card has a specific meaning, and a guidebook explains what each cards means. You can ask questions about your life when you need a spiritual perspective. You can also use the cards as a tool to sharpen your awareness: simply choose a card and before looking at the image, try to glean information about it. When I was first developing my abilities, a friend would pick a card, then try to mentally project the image to me. It's great fun. Anyone can try this.


Last weekend a friend came over for a day of fun, baking and friendship. She is also a medium, so naturally we like to push ourselves by testing new methods of connecting with Spirit. We concoct crazy card readings. We try different ways of choosing cards and use several different decks together, pulling a few cards from each. It was a fun day of play. We certainly didn't take ourselves too seriously and our games involved a lot of laughter. And sometimes, things that come up just don't seem to make sense. In fact, that's completely normal. Intuitive games and messages won't always be immediately clear, but it's important to sit with the information anyway. If you try this at home, remember, the information may be confusing in the moment, but that doesn't mean you are getting wrong information. 

While I was connecting with my friend's son who had passed, he showed me the image of a balloon, and a short, four-lettered man's name starting with "A." Unsure, I asked,"Well, is it anyone's birthday?" Sometimes I see balloons if it is. Remember, we were playing...this isn't a serious situation or life-changing reading. I got the impression that the balloon was from a balloon release in her son's honor, but we didn't have any idea what the "A" name connection was. A few hours later, the mystery was solved when she went home and read her mail. One of the balloons had been found in a cornfield by a woman who wrote that she, too, had lost a son named Adam. The woman shared that she had been to see a medium, and that my friend should take comfort in knowing her son would always be with her. Two families, separated by many miles, connected by a balloon and possibly fate. What a powerful message emerged from our "play!" Had we considered the information wrong just because it didn't make sense right away, we might have lost focus on the deeper meaning that would eventually reveal itself. The important thing to remember when you try this on your own, is to be patient and just have fun. Tune in and see what's there. Then, give the information some time to fall into place. 

Remember why your loved ones try to communicate: to help you realize this life is only a drop in eternity. To help you feel the comfort of their love, and to see you feeling joyful! Getting yourself in that space requires letting go of expectations. Ease up on your demands of your loved one to manifest what you want, and instead, make a fun game out of what they can do. Then, keep a little journal of the signs you receive and see if something keeps repeating itself. 

A couple of my favorite card decks for playing with intuition are:



Here's an Amazon list of what's available. You'll know the right deck for you when you see it! 


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The Language of Spirit

"I learned that the world has a soul, and that whoever understands that soul can also understand the language of things." - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

The most persistent question I get asked about my work as a medium is, "How can I communicate with my loved ones who have passed?"  

The answer lies within your willingness to learn about and try something new. The language of Spirit is much different than the way we communicate in the physical world, using our mouths to form words that are heard by someone's ears. When I was in school, I studied Spanish...

 

"I learned that the world has a soul, and that whoever understands that soul can also understand the language of things." - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

One of the first books I read on my spiritual journey was The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho, and it was a great choice for a beginner. It's the story of a young man on a long journey who is learning the language of the Universe. If you are ready to learn more about Spirit communication, this is a great story to inspire your desire to understand signs and symbols.

The most persistent question I get asked about my work as a medium is, "How can I communicate with my loved ones who have passed?"  

The answer lies within your willingness to learn about and try something new. The language of Spirit is much different than the way we communicate in the physical world, using our mouths to form words that are heard by someone's ears. When I was in school, I studied Spanish. On the first day of class, I wasn't yet ready to hear and understand a dissertation in that foreign language. But by the end of the week I had figured out how to say, "Hello!", "Goodbye", and "Where is the bathroom?" Just the basics. Funnily enough, my ex-husband was Belgian, and despite being divorced for a decade, I can still swear fluently in Flemish. (Tells you a lot about the marriage, eh?) Having spent a lot of time in Europe, I learned the frustration of being in social settings as a non-native language speaker. I had to be really alert, watch body language and listen for intonation since I didn't always readily understand the words being spoken.

The language of Spirit is nonverbal. Mediums have to develop their own relationship with those who are in Spirit to receive the information. Simply put, it is mental telepathy; pictures, images and thoughts. All of us do this constantly, but most people haven't really studied it. This is why we think of a person who is calling us right before the phone rings, or have a persistent urge to reach out to someone without knowing the reason why. Our Souls are beacons, constantly sending out signals to each other. The big question is, "How do we register those signals?"

A few years ago, I was conducting a Skype session for a woman in England whose husband had passed. During the communication, I saw images in my mind of the Hampton Court Flower Show. You might wonder how a medium living in the Upper Midwest of the USA knows about a flower show in London. Well, I have been there! In this particular case, I was the right medium for this woman because of my knowledge and experience. Another great example of how this works happened during a phone session last week. I was connecting a couple who had been deeply in love when I saw the image of a woman I know named Stephanie. The woman I was speaking with confirmed her friend named Stephanie had to break the news to her that her fiancee had died. Again, through mental telepathy, this was her fiancee's way of confirming he was aware of events that had taken place after his passing. It was also a way for him to thank Stephanie for the great care she took in handling the sad task of sharing that news. 

The language of Spirit is subtle one: signs in nature, the words of a stranger, mental images, feelings and sensations. The language of the Soul is universal; free from the barriers of language and the physical body. It is knowing of sorts. And like any other relationship, it takes patience and trust to develop.

If you want to learn how to communicate with a loved one in Spirit, you have to be willing to study, try something new and educate yourself. Read lots of books! Visit spirituality centers and see what kind of awareness classes they offer. Your results will be as good as the work you are willing to put into it.  

Being a professional medium, I am adept at practicing mental telepathy, and while that's great when I am working, it can cause some interesting circumstances for me in my normal life. Recently, while I was getting a manicure by a Vietnamese nail technician who was chatting in his native language with a coworker about the weather, I unwittingly contributed to the conversation. Stunned, he looked up at me and said, "You understand Vietnamese?" I was as surprised as he was! I said, "Just a little." and vowed to keep my mouth and brain shut from then on. Ha!

Have fun with your experimentation. Your loved ones in the Spirit world know you are just learning and want the process to be joyful for you. Try not too be too serious; you may even want to make a bit of a game out of it. When it comes to communicating with Spirit, our Souls are beacons, constantly sending out messages to one another. With dedicated practice, we can all begin to receive those messages with crystal clarity.


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Five myths about mediumship revealed!

Here's my top list of of the fishy (and sometimes funny) issues about mediumship and Spirit communication I deal with often.  In the world of the paranormal there are a lot of theories; which ones are worthwhile and which ones are useless? This article will help you understand the downfalls of "certified mediums" and the reasons why some Spirits do or do not come through in a group session. 

Myth One: Your loved ones jump all over me at the grocery store or visit me at home when I'm just relaxing with my family.  And my personal favorite: Myth Five: Your loved ones in Spirit are with you ALL of the time. 

 

 

 

Here's my top list of of the fishy (and sometimes funny) issues about mediumship and Spirit communication I deal with most often.  

Myth One: Your loved ones jump all over me at the grocery store or visit me at home when I'm just relaxing with my family. 

People have often said to me, "I told my Dad to go find you when he died!"  Wait a minute....why would you tell your Dad to enter the home of someone he doesn't know? Did he do that when he was alive? Another classic situation occurs when someone asks,"So, what do you do for a living?"  My response is usually met with, "Oh my gosh, do you see anyone with me?" or "You're crazy!"

While it has happened that a random soul has shown up to urge me to deliver a message, I can count the times over the years on one hand. It simply doesn't work that way, especially for a full-time medium. In order for me to give someone a great reading, I need to tune into that energy, and that is simply not happening when I am cooking dinner, surfing the internet or having coffee with a friend. Reality TV shows have led people to believe the life of a medium is one full of constant connections regardless of the who, what, where or when. That Spirit just HAS to deliver a message right now, in the middle of aerobics class. What everyone really needs to bear in mind is that reality TV is meant to be entertaining, and producers carefully coordinate situations for that purpose. Filming permits are required and often people are cast into certain situations because they have a dramatic story. All that glitters is not necessarily gold. 

I occasionally meet someone with the ability who says they are being bombarded all day by errant spirits. My response it to tell that person that perhaps they need to explore their ability. I know first-hand, if a medium is using the ability to help people consistently, there will be no need for their dinner to be disrupted so they can give readings then, too. It's largely a matter of discipline and choosing to tune in at the appropriate time. 

I also don't have the ability to sit around and chat all day with my deceased relatives. I am not objective, and like you, I will book a session with a medium or work on my own to recognize their signs and subtle communication. 

Myth Two: A "certified medium" is guaranteed to give you a great reading.

This is a question that I feel truly needs to be addressed, even knowing I am likely to upset some of my peers. First of all, mediumship is not a regulated industry. We don't have to pass a Board Exam and go to school in order to open a business. Most mediums claiming to be certified have simply paid for and attended a series of classes. Sometimes the teacher is famous. The testing for these certificates is lenient, unregulated and ungoverned. The teacher alone determines whether the medium passes. The complaints I receive most frequently from clients about poor previous readings involve this type of "certified medium." 

Many intuitives have some ability, but not enough to consistently (and I mean 99.99% percent of the time) make accurate, validating connections. An 80% success rate is not enough when you are responsible for someone's emotional well-being. There are also mediums that are certified and tested scientifically in blind studies by the Forever Family Foundation and other comparable scientific studies. The mediums do not pay for this certificate and it is difficult to achieve. The downside is that it is a slow process therefore not enough mediums are able to be tested and funding for the program isn't abundant. But that is one certificate that should be held in esteem. 

My advice is this: if you are researching for a mediumistic reading, look for someone with years of experience and large quantities of positive feedback. Get referrals from people you know. Attend a public event first to see them work.  When you visit a medium's website and their tagline or bio is a list of who they have studied with or are certified by, consider for a moment, why are they using someone else's name to describe themselves? If a medium is good, you'll be reading lots of reviews from their clients--not a list of who they have taken classes from. Don't judge a medium by their Facebook following, either. Large numbers of followers doesn't indicate any ability beyond knowing how to maximize exposure on social media. 

 As a side note, in the UK, getting certificates by the Spiritualist National Union for different aspects of mediumship is actually a very rigorous process. This sort of regulation doesn't exist in the U.S., but there are smaller organizations such as the Forever Family Foundation that are making great strides to recognize truly capable mediums.

Progress is being made, but it is ultimately up to the potential client to decide if a certificate seems holds any merit. 

Myth Three: You have to wait a specific amount of time after a loved one's passing before you can have a session because the Soul has to get adjusted before they can communicate.

Completely untrue. I have received validating messages from Souls who have passed over within a few hours. The right time to schedule a reading is when you feel able to handle the emotions that arise from the communication. There is a school of thought that you should also be in a place of acceptance of the passing before you have a session. This to me is a flexible area. I see no benefit for the newly bereaved to wait a set amount of time to receive the communication from a child or spouse that could possibly save them from extreme despair. A reading will not remove your experience of grief, but it may remove the fear of the separation. You will know your loved is spiritually close and always will be. You will know they are still alive. People who get thrown into grief without a prior knowledge of spiritual connections stand to benefit the most from experiencing a connection. If you have ever had a validating session, then theoretically you know the afterlife is real and you can handle subsequent losses more gracefully. This is the reason why I offer High Priority sessions at all times for those who are newly bereaved and have never experienced the communication before. The sooner, the better. 

Myth Four: Only strong, loud spirits come through in a group sessions.

Again, there is no evidence to support this. I have connected with hundreds of very shy, quiet Souls in group sessions. Mediums are not in charge of who comes through; it is organized by our Spiritual helpers based on who is in the audience. It is Spirit's intention that the messages which come through touch the hearts of everyone present. Likewise, the most bereaved person doesn't necessarily receive the connection either. It's a group, and a group experience will address the overall needs of everyone present. 

Myth Five: Your loved ones in Spirit are with you ALL of the time. 

Okay, this isn't a myth. It's true. Your loved ones are with you 24/7 especially when you are in the bedroom and bathroom. :-)

Joking! But, I get asked that ALL the time! People worry they have no privacy. Even while alive, we are not with anyone 24/7. Our children go to school. Our spouses go to work. We move out from our parents homes. Yes, your sacred, private moments are yours. No worries there anymore, okay? The most important thing to know is that Spirit is with you in the moments when you need them most. 

As you seek answers in your own life and in the midst of your own losses, here's hoping this myth-busting helps you on your journey.


 

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