How Hard is Doing the Right Thing?
I’m wrapping up my Spring Tour and heading home for two Wisconsin events this weekend. Being on the road can be tiring, but you sure do learn a lot when you are out of your comfort zone and making your way through unfamiliar territory. One thing I have learned being on tour this past month is the importance of doing the “right thing,” according to your heart.
I’m wrapping up my Spring Tour and heading home for two Wisconsin events this weekend. Being on the road can be tiring, but you sure do learn a lot when you are out of your comfort zone and making your way through unfamiliar territory.
One thing I have learned being on tour this past month is the importance of doing the “right thing,” according to your heart. In Texas a woman in the audience received a message from a grandmother who had passed. The grandmother was communicating such love and gratitude toward her granddaughter. She kept showing me bottles of nail polish, along with the emotion of her love. The granddaughter started crying, tears of relief mixed with joy, and told us that they’d had a difficult relationship. But after her grandmother crossed, she took actions that she felt were the “right thing to do.” She painted her grandmothers’ nails before laying her to rest, because the grandmother always had perfect nails and she wanted to honor her in that small way. Even though their relationship on Earth was not the greatest, the woman’s final small act of kindness paid off big.
When we leave hurts in the past and act with kindness towards those who have injured us, we create a whole new relationship. It doesn’t matter if the body is alive or dead--what matters is the love that is always alive.
There was a similar message at the group in Pennsylvania this weekend. A woman in the audience had taken care of an elderly family member who was quite demanding and picky before her passing. But in Spirit the elderly woman came through with so much love and gratefulness for the assistance she had received. Sometimes we don’t express, or maybe even feel, the deep sense of gratitude and love that people inspire in us until we actually cross over and see life from a bigger perspective.
The underlying theme with both messages is that when you choose to be kind, you don’t just change the world of the person you are directly relating to. You change the world as a whole.
Last week I spent a few days wandering the streets and subways of New York, which is honestly one of the best opportunities anywhere to see a cross section of humanity. In just minutes you can come across a massive disparity between standards of living. You may walk past someone who’s completely destitute and looking for hot food and, at the next turn, brush shoulders with someone wearing shoes that cost more than most peoples’ mortgage payments. I offered a genuine smile to everyone I could. I smiled widely at a distracted teenager sitting across from me on the subway (she probably thought I was crazy) and, minutes later, at a man dining with friends at a fancy lunch spot on the Upper East Side. (he looked alarmed, like maybe I might come in and ask him for money.)
One man I crossed paths with is still with me in my heart. It was Saturday morning, and I had just been to the market at Union Square. I was headed back to the subway. I could hear singing as I walked down the stairs to the train platform.
“All you need is love…”
It was an older black man, probably homeless or at least really struggling, with a small CD player. He was sitting on a bench, playing the Beatles and letting the world hear his deep, melodic voice.
“All you need is love….”
Smiling, I looked down the platform and saw a woman about my age grinning at the singer. She and I looked at each other, burst into laughter and started singing with him.
“All you need is love…”
Love is all you need, people. Everyone, without fail, is trying to overcome some hardship. On a completely crappy day, you can still receive a smile and some random kindness from this world. You can also choose to give it out, simply by lifting your eyes, turning the corners of your mouth up, and maybe even singing along.
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VIDEO BLOG: Which loved one is sending me a sign?
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers a question from a viewer with multiple loved ones in Spirit. She is wondering how to tell which one is sending her a sign. Mollie shares an endearing, personal story of how she overlooked a very specific sign from her brother who passed away 20 years ago. She also discusses the higher purpose of signs and how you can also send them to a loved one.
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers a question from a viewer with multiple loved ones in Spirit. She is wondering how to tell which one is sending her a sign. Mollie shares a personal story of how she overlooked a very specific sign from her brother who passed away 20 years ago. She also discusses the higher purpose of signs and how you can also send them to a loved one.
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Quieting the Peanut Gallery
Back when my children were young, to try and save myself some embarrassment whenever we dined at friends’ homes, I taught them they could use one of two answers if asked if they liked the food: “Yes! Thanks for cooking!” or “It’s interesting. Thanks for cooking!” Blurting out “It’s horrible!” wasn’t helpful or kind. A meal is a gift, not a place to inject negative opinions.
Back when my children were young, to try and save myself some embarrassment whenever we dined at friends’ homes, I taught them they could use one of two answers if asked if they liked the food: “Yes! Thanks for cooking!” or “It’s interesting. Thanks for cooking!” Blurting out “It’s horrible!” wasn’t helpful or kind. A meal is a gift, not a place to inject negative opinions.
Well, it’s been an “interesting” week for me. Like anyone else who is coping with the human condition 100% of the time, I can handle most stresses if they come at me one by one. But when stress comes slapping in from every angle, it’s time to stop and regroup before I reach the breakdown point. That’s the “interesting” meal the Universe cooked up for me this week. Family, work, health, and tax day…one big, simmering pot of chaos.
When I logged online, I found a nastier-than-usual dose of comments from the Peanut Gallery called Facebook. I’m not going to share the details of what I regularly receive, but it goes way beyond, “This is devil’s work!” But alas, it’s Facebook, and lots of people spew their hate in 30 seconds and move on. Then there’s the Peanut Gallery called my Inbox: I’m amazed when people take the time to email me nasty comments or even “helpful” suggestions that aren’t helpful at all. All of this adds up to a lot of chatter in my head. Not the dead people this time—just me, The Peanut Gallery of Mollie, chiding myself and sinking deeper into the problem instead of the solution.
I was so stressed out I couldn’t sleep—which is one trouble I never have. Being a traveler, I’ve learned to sleep wherever I am. I gave in at 3 a.m. and decided to have a cup of tea. As I sat there sipping, I tried to dream up logical answers for each situation, and I just couldn’t. So instead I prayed and asked for angelic help, for Spirit, for God, for my dead brother—-anything, anyone who could show me the path to serenity.
The angels didn’t manifest. There was no sudden miracle. Geez, I couldn’t even get my brother to make a light to flicker to show his presence. I felt lost, except for one small thought that popped into my head.
The chaos would keep cranking up until I changed course.
I knew it was true. Change is the only way out of an issue. Either the issue changes, or you change yourself.
I realized my work schedule needed a major overhaul—and how disappointing that would be for some people. I realized that my injured back needs to be babied for the next few weeks. Lots of inconvenience there! The other situations lay outside of me. I could only change my reaction to them.
I gave thanks to the stress for showing me the areas I need to work on. I also gave thanks to the Universe, or God, for giving me this lesson in a compassionate way. I’m in a challenging situation that I can’t transform quickly. But even on a lousy day there is always a “best case scenario” that can happen within the framework that exists. I crawled back into bed and got up two hours later, still exhausted and with a migraine. That’s when grace started unfurling on my behalf, and I saw the best case scenario playing out right before my eyes.
During an early morning work meeting, I was encouraged to stay strong and reminded that, “It’s darkest before the dawn.”
A good friend with whom I haven’t spoken in months sent me this text out of the blue: “Don’t worry. It will all be all right.” You’ve got to be kidding! His Soul was picking up my spiritual SOS. Trusting his intuition, he responded to my energetic plea for help.
And while the troublesome situations sat and simmered unchanged, I checked out of life for three hours to receive the gift of a massage and water therapy for my back at a beautiful spa. The gift was given by someone who loves me and wants me to be able to work pain-free. I protested when it was offered, thinking it was just too much to accept. But then I realized it was the Universe conspiring to help me. As I relaxed into the hot water, I told the Peanut Gallery of Mollie it had two choices: shut up or give thanks. So, for the next three hours, I silently expressed gratitude for everything and focused on my trusty affirmation of many years, “ I am healthy, happy, whole, well, loved and abundant.”
In the massage room there was a small card waiting for me with a picture of a flowing stream and a quote.
“Hardships often prepare people for an extraordinary destiny.” --C.S. Lewis
“Go with the flow,” I thought, looking at the picture of the stream. That’s when I thought of you. The thousands of people who look to me to be a light seen from the depths of their grief. The extraordinary, everyday people I meet who are living through the hell of loss, and who can’t change a damn thing about their situations.
I walked out of the spa feeling much better. Nothing had actually changed. I still have schedule, family, health and tax-day stresses to confront. But now I’m sure I can handle them, especially knowing that I have coworkers, friends, strangers and even a Higher Power willing to encourage, comfort and inspire me along the way.
Perhaps you need to give your Peanut Gallery an ultimatum, too. Taking a break, even a few hours, from situations you cannot change and infusing your being with gratitude can help get you through the day more peacefully. Prayers are often answered by our friends. Accept the Divine’s response to your requests through the people directed into your life. Just say “Yes!” And don’t forget to add a heartfelt “Thank you!”
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VIDEO BLOG: Addressing the Myths of Suicide.
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from a bereaved woman who has experienced phenomena in her home after her fiancee's suicide. Mollie shares her knowledge and puts to rest some of the myths associated about what happens to a soul who completes suicide. The blog wraps up with recommended resources for those who are rebuilding their lives after this type of loss.
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from a bereaved woman who has experienced phenomena in her home after her fiancee's suicide. Mollie shares her knowledge and puts to rest some of the myths about what happens to a soul who completes suicide. The blog wraps up with recommended resources for those who are rebuilding their lives after this type of loss. The Alliance of Hope can be found at www.allianceofhope.org Click HERE to visit their website.
You should also read this article from 2014: Opening Up About Suicide
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Comfort vs. Healing
I've just returned from a wonderful five-city tour of the Upper Midwest that involved driving about 1,300 miles. Let me tell you, my back hurts! When I would sink into my car, I'd turn the seat heater on high because it provided some comfort for my aching back. Churning through my mind, though, was an incessant worry about what might be happening beneath the surface. Three years ago I had back surgery to remove pieces of a broken disk. I had suffered terribly for two years before that surgery, trying every possible therapy. The surgery finally provided the deep healing I needed.
With so much time on the highway to think about the people I had met on the trip and the messages from their loved ones in Spirit, I found myself debating the qualities of healing versus comfort.
I've just returned from a wonderful five-city tour of the Upper Midwest that involved driving about 1,300 miles. Let me tell you, my back hurts! When I would sink into my car, I'd turn the seat heater on high because it provided some comfort for my aching back. Churning through my mind, though, was an incessant worry about what might be happening beneath the surface. Three years ago I had back surgery to remove pieces of a broken disk. I had suffered terribly for two years before that surgery, trying every possible therapy. The surgery finally provided the deep healing I needed.
With so much time on the highway to think about the people I had met on the trip and the messages from their loved ones in Spirit, I found myself debating the qualities of healing versus comfort.
A few years ago, when I stopped scheduling private sessions and turned to a wait list to manage the large number of people requesting appointments with me, I had to sit down and get very clear about my life purpose. Did I want to help three people a day, or did I want to commit to travel and writing? It wasn't difficult. I knew exactly how I hoped to use my ability to communicate with people who have passed.
I am here to help as many people as possible learn that communication with a deceased loved one is a natural process that is always available to them.
The problem with having a reading with a medium is that it's a one-hit wonder. It's an amazing validation that opens the doors of your mind to new possibilities, in which death becomes another type of birth to celebrate. Where we once saw only an ending, we now see another beginning. The relief and healing is nearly instantaneous. It usually makes people want another session right away!
But where do you go from there?
Having repetitive sessions with a medium provides comfort only. Your very first session is the one that proves to you that the connection to those you love is eternal. No one ever truly dies--only the body does.
We all need comfort sometimes. That is what my seat heater gave my back last week. Comfort. So did Tylenol. But did they heal my back? No. They simply helped me get through the day and be able to work. The underlying issue remains, and I need to know if I have again fractured a disk.
Healing on a spiritual and emotional level requires "surgery" of a different sort. It's an inside job. You have to remove the source of injury, which is often the fear-based thoughts.
Is my loved one okay?
Did my loved one transition easily or get stuck somewhere?
Are they angry with me?
Do they know how much they are loved and missed?
All these questions are sources of deep pain that arise from a lack of knowledge or experience with the afterlife. And all can be answered by increasing your spiritual knowledge as you make a conscious decision to reach for the light. You have to do the work. Sitting around waiting for a "sign" from a loved one isn't going to provide you with the healing you need to get back to the business of living.
If you have experienced the awe and wonder of a connection with a loved one through a medium, it's now time to cultivate that communication on your own. Here are some specific actions you can take that will provide comfort as you journey towards healing.
- Read books on spirituality and afterlife communication. I always recommend George Anderson's books.
- Attend spiritual seminars or go see a medium work in a live demonstration. There are a few large and awesome seminars that tour the US. These includeCelebrate Your Life!and I Can Do It! They often include mediums but are more directed to living consciously in a spiritual way.
- Join a group that is specific to your loss. Look toThe Compassionate Friends Network for those who have experienced the passing of a child. The Alliance of Hope for Suicide Survivors provides understanding and support for those seeking light after such a tragic loss.
- Accept help from friends who offer to spend time with you. Sometimes the best dose of comfort can be found in the distraction that a kind friend provides with a cup of tea, a movie, a walk, a conversation, or a simple hour of companionship.
Make your healing a priority. Once you have an experience that truly changes your mind about death being the end of a relationship, you need to seek experiences that buoy your faith in the afterlife. This will help carry you through the moments when waves of grief come washing into your shore.
Even as a medium with a full knowledge of the awesome connection we share with our loved ones in Spirit, I can tell you this: You will still miss them. The sound of your child's laughter, the warmth of a mother's hug, or the scent of your beloved's perfume are incredible physical pleasures that can't be replicated. But all is not lost with their passing. They--their consciousness, their essential being--is alive, well and ready to communicate. All you need to do is learn the subtlety of their language.
It's not difficult. It only takes a willingness to believe that what you think may be a sign from them is just that. Trust your instincts-and the healing will come.
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VIDEO BLOG: Receiving Communications and Signs from a Child in Spirit
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from two bereaved mothers about afterlife connections with their daughters. One passed two weeks ago, the other, two years ago. Mollie gives both mothers helpful information on what type of communication to expect as the years pass. People often look for the same "signs" and yet, as they become more spiritually aware, the signs and communication change. The blog wraps up with 3 recommended blog articles from 2014 to help them learn more about recognizing the spiritual connection.
Today I am answering questions from two bereaved mothers about afterlife connections with their daughters. One passed two weeks ago, the other, two years ago. I give both mothers helpful information on what type of communication to expect as the years pass. People often look for the same "signs" and yet, as they become more spiritually aware, the signs and communication change. The blog wraps up with 3 recommended blog articles from 2014 to help them learn more about recognizing the spiritual connection.
You'll want to read these three blog posts from last year:
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