Comfort vs. Healing
I've just returned from a wonderful five-city tour of the Upper Midwest that involved driving about 1,300 miles. Let me tell you, my back hurts! When I would sink into my car, I'd turn the seat heater on high because it provided some comfort for my aching back. Churning through my mind, though, was an incessant worry about what might be happening beneath the surface. Three years ago I had back surgery to remove pieces of a broken disk. I had suffered terribly for two years before that surgery, trying every possible therapy. The surgery finally provided the deep healing I needed.
With so much time on the highway to think about the people I had met on the trip and the messages from their loved ones in Spirit, I found myself debating the qualities of healing versus comfort.
I've just returned from a wonderful five-city tour of the Upper Midwest that involved driving about 1,300 miles. Let me tell you, my back hurts! When I would sink into my car, I'd turn the seat heater on high because it provided some comfort for my aching back. Churning through my mind, though, was an incessant worry about what might be happening beneath the surface. Three years ago I had back surgery to remove pieces of a broken disk. I had suffered terribly for two years before that surgery, trying every possible therapy. The surgery finally provided the deep healing I needed.
With so much time on the highway to think about the people I had met on the trip and the messages from their loved ones in Spirit, I found myself debating the qualities of healing versus comfort.
A few years ago, when I stopped scheduling private sessions and turned to a wait list to manage the large number of people requesting appointments with me, I had to sit down and get very clear about my life purpose. Did I want to help three people a day, or did I want to commit to travel and writing? It wasn't difficult. I knew exactly how I hoped to use my ability to communicate with people who have passed.
I am here to help as many people as possible learn that communication with a deceased loved one is a natural process that is always available to them.
The problem with having a reading with a medium is that it's a one-hit wonder. It's an amazing validation that opens the doors of your mind to new possibilities, in which death becomes another type of birth to celebrate. Where we once saw only an ending, we now see another beginning. The relief and healing is nearly instantaneous. It usually makes people want another session right away!
But where do you go from there?
Having repetitive sessions with a medium provides comfort only. Your very first session is the one that proves to you that the connection to those you love is eternal. No one ever truly dies--only the body does.
We all need comfort sometimes. That is what my seat heater gave my back last week. Comfort. So did Tylenol. But did they heal my back? No. They simply helped me get through the day and be able to work. The underlying issue remains, and I need to know if I have again fractured a disk.
Healing on a spiritual and emotional level requires "surgery" of a different sort. It's an inside job. You have to remove the source of injury, which is often the fear-based thoughts.
Is my loved one okay?
Did my loved one transition easily or get stuck somewhere?
Are they angry with me?
Do they know how much they are loved and missed?
All these questions are sources of deep pain that arise from a lack of knowledge or experience with the afterlife. And all can be answered by increasing your spiritual knowledge as you make a conscious decision to reach for the light. You have to do the work. Sitting around waiting for a "sign" from a loved one isn't going to provide you with the healing you need to get back to the business of living.
If you have experienced the awe and wonder of a connection with a loved one through a medium, it's now time to cultivate that communication on your own. Here are some specific actions you can take that will provide comfort as you journey towards healing.
- Read books on spirituality and afterlife communication. I always recommend George Anderson's books.
- Attend spiritual seminars or go see a medium work in a live demonstration. There are a few large and awesome seminars that tour the US. These includeCelebrate Your Life!and I Can Do It! They often include mediums but are more directed to living consciously in a spiritual way.
- Join a group that is specific to your loss. Look toThe Compassionate Friends Network for those who have experienced the passing of a child. The Alliance of Hope for Suicide Survivors provides understanding and support for those seeking light after such a tragic loss.
- Accept help from friends who offer to spend time with you. Sometimes the best dose of comfort can be found in the distraction that a kind friend provides with a cup of tea, a movie, a walk, a conversation, or a simple hour of companionship.
Make your healing a priority. Once you have an experience that truly changes your mind about death being the end of a relationship, you need to seek experiences that buoy your faith in the afterlife. This will help carry you through the moments when waves of grief come washing into your shore.
Even as a medium with a full knowledge of the awesome connection we share with our loved ones in Spirit, I can tell you this: You will still miss them. The sound of your child's laughter, the warmth of a mother's hug, or the scent of your beloved's perfume are incredible physical pleasures that can't be replicated. But all is not lost with their passing. They--their consciousness, their essential being--is alive, well and ready to communicate. All you need to do is learn the subtlety of their language.
It's not difficult. It only takes a willingness to believe that what you think may be a sign from them is just that. Trust your instincts-and the healing will come.
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VIDEO BLOG: Receiving Communications and Signs from a Child in Spirit
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from two bereaved mothers about afterlife connections with their daughters. One passed two weeks ago, the other, two years ago. Mollie gives both mothers helpful information on what type of communication to expect as the years pass. People often look for the same "signs" and yet, as they become more spiritually aware, the signs and communication change. The blog wraps up with 3 recommended blog articles from 2014 to help them learn more about recognizing the spiritual connection.
Today I am answering questions from two bereaved mothers about afterlife connections with their daughters. One passed two weeks ago, the other, two years ago. I give both mothers helpful information on what type of communication to expect as the years pass. People often look for the same "signs" and yet, as they become more spiritually aware, the signs and communication change. The blog wraps up with 3 recommended blog articles from 2014 to help them learn more about recognizing the spiritual connection.
You'll want to read these three blog posts from last year:
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How Do You Perceive Reality?
Have you had upsetting thoughts about a passed loved one missing your important life events such as the birth of a child, weddings or serious illness? You need to read this article for an easy to understand explanation and validation of how your loved ones are definitely seeing what is currently happening in your life.
It’s Spring in the Upper Midwest! Hallelujah! The weather was bright and sunny today and the forecast is above freezing for the next week and a half. Melting snow and rain boot season is here, and it brings with it a vibrant energy of growth. There’s a lot of discussion about when spring really starts. Is it a specific date? When the crocus blooms? For me, it’s when I walk outside and the cold doesn’t hurt my face! (Very low standards here in Wisconsin.)
The return of the birds is one of my favorite signs of spring. They have been chirping their beaks off at dawn for the last two weeks. A few days ago, I saw a frustrated little chickadee out in my garden. It reminded me of one of my favorite analogies for explaining how loved ones in Spirit do not miss out on what happens in our lives.
My garden is very narrow and is shaded by the house most of the day. I usually move my computer up to my dining room to work so I can look out the window and enjoy the flowers. To help me get a better view of my roses, and to increase the amount of light the plants receive, I lean old mirrors against the fence. It’s really neat, and I can see so much more of the garden from my window.
I first spotted the chickadee through the kitchen window while I was pouring my morning coffee. He was hopping around on the snow in front of a mirror and would try to jump into it. He’d fall back onto the snow, shake his head, and do it again. This sort of scene carried on all day. He’d hop onto a hydrangea branch, stare at himself in the mirror and try to jump onto the branch that was reflected in the glass. He’d perch on the top edge of the mirror, lean over, look at himself and AGAIN try to somersault into what he perceived as another part of the garden.
Mirrors provide an interesting view, don’t they? In the chickadee’s case, he just couldn’t see beyond his own reality.
One of the great concerns people share with me during their grieving is that their loved ones didn’t live to see their grandchildren, graduations, weddings, etc.
But your loved ones in Spirit really do see what happens after they pass. They share those special moments with you, both the joyous and difficult ones.
To help people understand this better, I explain it like this:
Everyone has seen a television show with a police questioning room in it. The subject sits on a chair alone and is surrounded by walls made of two-way mirrors. All he can see is his own reality reflected back at him. Yet on the “Other Side” of those mirrors sit many people who are able to see through the glass and observe everything the subject is doing.
Easy to understand, right? We get very caught up in our reality, because it’s all we can see in the looking glass. But that is not true for our loved ones who have passed into the next dimension—call it Heaven, the Other Side, the Spirit World, or whatever you like. They don’t miss anything!
Just a few weeks ago I connected a family to their son who had recently passed. After his message, he communicated for me to “Tell my mom I see the new broom.” Sure enough, she had just bought a new broom for the kitchen. If he sees the new broom, he certainly sees the big things that are happening! It’s important to pay attention to these kinds of small details during a connection with a medium. They are so specific that only those living in the home will be able to validate them. Non-Google-able, as I like to say.
Try to remember the mirror analogy next time you feel that wave of sadness creep in and you think of what your loved one is missing. They see you. They send you their support and prayers.
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Preparing for a Wonderful Session
Every day I see people in need of a healing mediumship session sabotage their opportunity because they are uninformed about my number one top tip to ensure a wonderful connection. Over the past few years, the interest in mediumship has absolutely exploded. So many people are seeking a personal session but don't know where to start. I'm here to help! After years of doing professional readings, I'd love to share three of my top tips to make certain you have the helpful experience you need to take the next step on your path toward healing after a loss.
Over the past few years, the interest in mediumship has absolutely exploded. So many people are seeking a personal session but don't know where to start. After years of doing professional readings, I'd love to share my top tips to ensure you have the helpful experience you need to take the next step on your path toward healing after a loss.
1. Keep your information to yourself. If you only take ONE single piece of knowledge away from reading this article, please, let it be this. When you are seeking evidence validating the existence of the afterlife, it is absolutely VITAL that you do not share information about your deceased loved one, or yourself, with a medium prior to the session. It is the job of the medium to work with the Soul/Spirit of your loved one to obtain facts and evidence that validate their identity and proof of survival.
Actions to consider:
- Do not allow mediums to have access to your Facebook profile by being their "Friend" on Facebook.
- "Like" professional pages on Facebook and and opt to get notifications when they update their page. (If you don't opt for notifications, you will not receive their posts.)
- Have a friend book your session for you and use a false name. That's a bit extreme, but if you are concerned, then simply do it.
- Do not email a medium and tell them who you are hoping to reach. It will hinder, not help your connection.
I cannot stress this enough: this is the most important component of a great session and it is completely your responsibility to keep your information private. This is why I do not read for friends nor do I recommend repeated sessions.
2. Keep your connection options open. Very few people live within a reasonable driving distance of a reputable medium; having your session by telephone, Skype or FaceTime is almost always the best solution. I have been doing phone/Skype sessions for years with excellent success. I recommend it over an in-person session for three main reasons:
- Ease of scheduling and on-time appointments
- Access to reputable, excellent mediums no matter where you live
- Additional evidence can be given when you are not visible to the medium
The most interesting part of this is the last. I cannot tell you how many phone sessions I have done for people where their deceased loved one communicated something like, "Tell her I love her short, blonde hair." When in fact, the person on the other end of the phone had undergone a drastic hair change since their loved one's passing. During one phone session, a deceased husband communicated to his living wife that he saw a problem with his wife's neck, and he noted that it was quite serious. The reply was priceless, "Oh my!! I'm sitting here in a neck brace and I am having surgery in a few weeks!" None of that information would have been validating if the client had been sitting in front of me.
3. Learn all you can before your session. This is especially important for the newly-bereaved. Popular television shows have opened the minds of people everywhere to the possibility of the afterlife, and simultaneously, filled those same minds with a lot of erroneous information. Mediums do not see ghosts and talk to the dead. (At least the reputable, excellent mediums I know do not!) Communication with a deceased loved one is done by mental telepathy; it is a language of energy and of the Soul. It is very subtle. If you come into a session with the expectation of sitting down and talking to your loved one, you will be disappointed. The objective of a session is to receive validations and evidence of the afterlife, and you should expect that outcome. I personally will not conduct a session with anyone until they have allowed me to thoroughly explain how the communication takes place from a technical standpoint. Only then will I proceed with communication. For me to jump right into the session would be similar to offering the newly-bereaved a session in Japanese, when they don't speak the language. Want to know more? Here are some terrific books to get you started:
- All books by George Anderson including, "Walking in the Garden of Souls" and "Lessons from the Light"
- "Soul Shift" and "Messages from the Afterlife" by Mark Ireland
- The Power of the Soul by John Holland
These are just my top three tips, but there is so much more information available on my blog. Please take some time to read up to prepare yourself for a successful session with the medium you choose.
Oh, and one bonus tip since you made it all the way to the end: remember that celebrity mediums are still celebrities, and entertainment is not education.
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It's Better to Give AND Receive
Did you grow up being indoctrinated with the belief that "It is more blessed to give than receive?"
I'm looking deeper at this, especially as Valentine's Day approaches, the traditional day when everyone longs to feel loved. Most of the people reading my blogs and newsletter are spiritual people, and by nature, "givers." And of course, none of us would have to think too hard to identify the "takers" in our lives; people who drain us energetically, financially and emotionally. Those who are self-serving, who give no thought to the cost inflicted upon others. But I'm not musing about the takers today.
Did you grow up being indoctrinated with the belief that "It is more blessed to give than receive?"
I'm looking deeper at this, especially as Valentine's Day approaches, the traditional day when everyone longs to feel loved. Most of the people reading my blogs and newsletter are spiritual people, and by nature, "givers." And of course, none of us would have to think too hard to identify the "takers" in our lives; people who drain us energetically, financially and emotionally. Those who are self-serving, who give no thought to the cost inflicted upon others. But I'm not musing about the takers today.
There's a vast difference between receiving and taking. Let's start with the definition:
Receive: to be given, presented with, or paid.
Take: to lay hold of, to consume, to capture or gain possession of by force.
Without receivers, the givers of the world are jobless. Life is abundant, and we are surrounded by helpful, loving, caring friends and family members who truly wish to give. How are your receiving skills? How is your ability to receive divine blessings and love? Are you accepting your gifts or rejecting them? When you become as good at receiving as you are at giving, the world becomes a more balanced and blessed place. Especially YOUR world!
I learned many years ago that when someone is genuinely trying to give to me, the best response is, "Thank you." I had to go through some incredibly humbling situations to get to that point! When we are out of balance with our energy flow, we often respond to offerings by others with negative statements like:
"You shouldn't have."
"Oh, I can't accept that!"
"That's nice but I feel so bad accepting this."
When you get to the heart of the matter, all of those statements affirm issues of self-worth, control and humility, and have nothing to do with politeness in the least. Many of us prefer to be the "giver" because it makes us feel more confident in our ability to be self-sustaining. Basically to "give" is an empowered sense of control. Who doesn't like that feeling? We are humans with egos, after all. But it sucks to be on the receiving end of, for example, food stamps; to have "failed" so badly that you can't even provide the basics for you family. Terrible feeling, no? This is called called humility. To be in a position of humility is a beautiful, divine gift of love. It is an opportunity for you to renew your hope in the goodness of humanity and firm your resolve to give of your blessings to help others.
I see Spirit working every single day to bring new lessons to us about how to balance our energy by learning to receive. I'll share two examples, but believe me, I have enough fodder for an entire book on this topic!
I have had several sessions during which a husband/father came through who had passed away after an extended and incapacitating illness. All of these men were the traditional providers for their family, and they did it very well! They led their families with strong values, provided for their physical needs of housing and did a million other "manly" things that showed their dedication to loving their family through their strength. Until the day they were given a terminal diagnosis; then came the incapacitation. In what seems like a horrid twist of fate, our beloved strong fathers and husbands found themselves in a complete role reversal of neediness.
Here comes the hidden gift: the Soul has an opportunity to balance itself before leaving this earth by learning to receive. This time that seems tragic holds deep and profound blessings for the person receiving the love, the care, the affection and attention. We don't consider illness a gift very often, but this is what the dead report to me! The gift of receiving. Wow, it is humbling! It connects us on the deepest levels and it has the capacity to increase our love for each other a millionfold.
The second way I see Spirit offering us lessons in receiving is through what we call synchronicity and coincidence. It's really about going with the flow to receive the love we need. Very recently, I did a private session with a widow, Anne, who explained to me that a string of randomly-connected events guided her to me. The appointment I was able to offer her just happened to be on the anniversary of her husband's burial. Synchronicity was happening on my end, too. Early in the day of Anne's session, a small gift was given to me, and as it was placed into my hands, I heard that little voice in my head tell me is was meant for my last client of the day. When I returned to my hotel room after Anne's session, I saw the forgotten gift on my desk, and hurried downstairs to find her before she left. I spotted Anne in the lobby with her sister, excitedly sharing details of her connection with her husband.
Grief is grief, and while I don't rate anyone's pain as worse than anyone else's, I often connect with people who have catastrophic, traumatizing horror stories associated with their loved one's passing. Sadly, Anne's story was one of these. After the session, there was no doubt in my mind she needed this little gift as a reminder that she is loved, always. After I gave her the gift, the three of us started chatting and we decided we would eat dinner together. Throughout the course of the meal, as we became fast friends, I realized that they were people I'd be friends with in normal circumstances. Thank my lucky stars I met them through Spirit! We raised a toast to Anne's husband, and thanked him for the many gifts he brought to all of us that day.
I told Anne after dinner, "If there is anything your husband wants you to know after this day, it is that he will never stop caring for you and providing you with love, just like he has always has. Go with the flow of what shows up in your life, receive it. They aren't coincidences, they are divinely-planned meetings meant to fill you with love and hope."
So, in light of Valentine's Day later this week, as you begin to think about ways you can show your love, turn your thoughts to how good you are at receiving it. Whether it arrives as a bouquet of flowers or a found penny, perhaps the very best response is a heartfelt, "Thank you."
The Universe is abundant, and love is available in unlimited supply to all who are open to receive.
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Spirit's Sense of Humor
One of the great pleasures of my job is sharing the joy when loved ones in Spirit make jokes or recall funny situations that bring up happy memories during a reading. So many people are afraid of mediums, or perhaps it would be more accurate to say they are afraid of what their deceased loved ones might have to say to them during a session. Not too long ago I remember a comment left on my Facebook page from man who said, "Why do dead people...
One of the great pleasures of my job is sharing the joy when loved ones in Spirit make jokes or recall funny situations that bring up happy memories during a reading. So many people are afraid of mediums, or perhaps it would be more accurate to say they are afraid of what their deceased loved ones might have to say to them during a session. Not too long ago I remember a comment left on my Facebook page from man who said, "Why do dead people always come through so happy and at peace? I don't believe any of this! That is not real! My Dad was an as****e and I know he's not at peace and the last thing I want to do is give him another chance to let me know how disappointed he is in me!"
A bit dramatic, but I have heard similar questions. I have never had anyone in Spirit come through with a negative message or express disappointment in a living family member's choices. My experiences over thousands of connections have all been the same: when a loved one "awakens" in the Spirit world, they are able to view their life and actions in their entirety. This means they are able to see the ripple effects of their choices on their loved ones. Lots of people make bad choices or poor decisions. Many people are grumpy, act like jerks or are even abusive. In every reading, literally...this has never failed: loved ones who have passed over come through to validate the existence of the afterlife and help their living loved ones heal. Often they acknowledge or apologize for hurtful behavior. Sometimes they offer a short explanation of why they acted that way, and it usually has to do with a personal inner struggle. The purpose of an afterlife connection is healing, and to bring forward any hurtful or judgmental information would simply never happen. The connection is precious and sacred, and the energy can only be sustained for minutes. If you were in Spirit, would you wish to tell your hurting, grieving child that they simply didn't live up to your expectations? NO! Of course not! It's all about healing, and there is never a reason to fear the messages that will come forward during a session.
Also, I see people comment on my Facebook page that's it's "creepy" to communicate with the deceased. Now hold on just a minute! When I'm connecting with your loved ones, I'm the one doing the talking, and I am not creepy. I am adorable. :-) Fear not, my friends!
Laughter is the best healer and anyone who has ever attended one of my group events has witnessed that, first-hand. Your loved ones retain their personality and jump at the chance to make a joke and create laughter.
One of my all-time funniest memories happened years ago in a small, private family session. The Dad had passed away, and his wife and children were present for the reading. The evidence was great, and everyone was enjoying the connection, smiling and crying. Near the end, the Dad communicated to me, "Tell them I'm with Mona." When I did, everyone fell over laughing. "Mona" was the Dad's pretend girlfriend, and the family joke was that whenever Dad was out, presumably grocery shopping, or doing some other boring chore, he'd always say he was out with "Mona." Such a fun family! The laughter continued until we all had tears running down our faces. Priceless memories.
There is a lot of value in silliness. It not only breaks up tension, it provides a large dose of healing. If you have ever had a loved one in Spirit play a joke on you, feel free to share it on my Facebook page. I share this article as a blog post and you can also leave your comments there. I'd love to read them, and everyone else in the community will too.
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