Video Blog: Helping Children Through Grief
In today’s video blog, Psychic Medium Mollie Morning Star interviews Madison, a young girl whose father passed from cancer two years ago. The video is intended to help children, but can also be an important tool for adults to understand the grief process from a child's perspective. Madison gives her honest answers on several important questions grieving children face such as:
- What’s kept you going on bad days?
- How do feel now compared to two years ago?
- What was most helpful in the beginning right after your Dad’s passing?
- What signs have you seen from your Dad?
Madison’s answers are fresh and inspiring for everyone who has lost someone dear to them and needs help rebuilding a joy-filled life.
In today’s video blog, I am interviewing Madison, a young girl whose father passed from cancer two years ago. The video is intended to help children, but can also be an important tool for adults to understand the grief process from a child's perspective. Madison gives her honest answers on several important questions grieving children face such as:
- What’s kept you going on bad days?
- How do feel now compared to two years ago?
- What was most helpful right after your Dad’s passing?
- What signs have you seen from your Dad?
Madison’s answers are fresh and inspiring for everyone who has lost someone dear to them and needs help rebuilding a joy-filled life.
©Mollie Morning Star 2015. Short excerpts of this article may be shared on the internet provided a live link back to this original source is used. Reproduction in print is prohibited.
Is My Child Growing Up in the Afterlife?
All bereaved parents have bittersweet moments when they look around at their other children, or their nieces and nephews, and see them getting taller. Or they watch their children's classmates graduate and get married and wonder, "What would my child look like now? Would he still laugh the same way? What would she be doing with her life?" The very thought of this can cause profound sadness.
All bereaved parents have bittersweet moments when they look around at their other children, or their nieces and nephews, and see them getting taller. Or they watch their children's classmates graduate and get married and wonder, "What would my child look like now? Would he still laugh the same way? What would she be doing with her life?" The very thought of this can cause profound sadness.
Countless bereaved parents have asked if their children are growing up in the afterlife. When they too pass and are reunited in spirit, will their children have aged?
When you have a reading with a medium, the medium will describe your loved one in a way that you recognize. That does not mean a specific age. It means only that: in a way that you will recognize them.
I have had it go both ways. A seven-year-old child who passed 15 years ago will "come through" at age seven and reassure his parents that when they pass, their relationship will pick up right where they left off. And not as often, I will have souls communicate from an adult perspective, when they actually passed during their youth. The difference rests in the parents' minds: what they expect their child is like now. If you think of your child as having grown up, then that is the perspective she'll communicate from.
This is basic logic, if you take a moment think about it.
When the body dies, the Soul is returned to Spirit. We measure the growth of a physical body by height or years, but a Soul is eternal. The Soul is not "growing up" in a physical shell that literally no longer exists. Nonetheless, the soul of a child who has died continues to grow and mature. We are also going through that process, right now as we live and breathe.
At all points in time, the Soul is maturing, growing, learning expanding-with or without a physical body.
What I have learned over the years is that at the point of reunion, when a parent passes over and is reunited with a dead child, absolutely all feelings of "missing out" are gone. All parts of you are made to feel "whole" once again. I feel confident stating this after conducting countless sessions where my sitter (the person having the session) has lost both a sibling and a parent. The parents always communicate the same emotion, "It was such a relief to be with him/her again."
I remember one particular case where I did a session for a woman who had lost everyone dear to her-husband, parents, spouse and her brother. The very first communication in that sitting was from her mother who "came though" with her arms around her son, who had died long before her. She communicated that they were reunited and the relationship was "whole again." They had left their troubled past behind them.
This particular reading provided deep comfort for my sitter, because the mother had disowned the son and ended her relationship with him here on Earth. And then he died. The mother had to live for years with an unhealed relationship and then the loss of her son.
Bereaved parents need a lot of comfort to get though milestones like missed birthdays or graduations. No matter what the situation or age of a child's passing, when you are reunited the feelings of missing out and loss are healed.
We can't know everything about the afterlife in a completely conclusive way from our Earthly perspective. When the wave of sadness rolls onto your shore, reminding you of what you are missing out on in Earthly years, gently tell yourself that this time apart is a period of growth and maturation for you and your child.
I often say about my brother, who passed at the age of 30, that "His Soul grew too big for his body, so he left it."
Take comfort where you can find it. We are always growing more glorious. And while we may not know every detail about the afterlife, I am absolutely sure that the vast chasms in our hearts created by our loved ones' departures are filled completely when we too, grow too big for our bodies and complete our work here.
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To Persevere Through Pain
Few things are more trying than persevering through loss. Every time you make a choice to keep going after a set-back, you are one step closer to realizing your dream--perhaps that's peace, healing or to experience joy again. I was incredibly inspired by Jason Day's life story after his tremendous win at the PGA tournament this week in my hometown.
Yesterday I cried because of golf. Seriously! Not that I take golf all that seriously, but my hometown hosted the PGA tournament and the win was an amazing thing to witness.
The champion, Jason Day, a 27-year-old Australian, brought something special to the game—his heart and authenticity. This was his first win at a major championship, after many near misses. As his ball rolled into the 18th hole, tears of joy, and probably relief, started rolling down his face. Waiting nearby was his pregnant (and gorgeous) wife, Ellie, and toddler son, Dash.
Jason’s story is inspiring, one of perseverance paying off. When he was 12, his father, Alvin, died of stomach cancer. Jason’s life took a turn for the worse. He began drinking and getting into trouble. I’ve read articles about the financial hardships his family went through and the extreme measures to which his mother had to go to provide for the family. She even took out a second mortgage on their home so she could send Jason to a private academy, where he would be able to thrive. There he met Col Swatton, his mentor and coach. Swatton served as his caddie at the tournament.
Jason’s story is public, so it can serve as a great inspiration to us all. Your story is private, but it is no less inspiring to those who know you. We all face losses, and they are unfathomable at times. Many are so tragic, unfair and heartbreaking that any level of recovery seems impossible. People we love are ripped from our arms by untimely deaths; partnerships disintegrate after trust is broken; jobs that provide our very sustenance become suddenly obsolete. Often we feel like we must be obsolete, too.
The truth is, recovery is available at some level for those who persevere through the hardships. Jason wanted to win this for his dad. Maybe that was the key part of the motivation that kept him going through all his failures over the past 15 years.
I’m not saying it is easy. But it is attainable for most people. It begins with making a solid commitment to your recovery. That means doing whatever it takes to carry on in a healthful way.
When you are nursing grief, you have to feed your soul every single day. When “hunger pangs” set in, your will to persevere is the first thing to get eaten up.
“I’m never going to get out of this mess.”
“My life sucks!”
Does this sound even remotely familiar? Those are the messages hunger pains from your Soul send to your head.
When I come home from a bike ride, I am ravenous. I head right to the kitchen and grab the first morsel of food I see. If I’m really on top of things, I have a container of precut veggies and almonds ready. Some days the only thing in there is ice cream…uh oh…Wait, why did I go for a bike ride?
Don’t let your spiritual fridge fill up with junk—it’s the first thing you’ll reach for. Have an emergency plan in place for the times you start losing your will to persevere.
Here are some tips for keeping healthy alternatives to despair easily at hand:
1. Get a list of friends who are further along in their grieving and recovery than you are. Put their numbers on speed dial in your phone. You need people who understand your loss, and you need several. No one person can be available to you all the time, and no one person will be able to help every time. Make sure your list is diverse enough that you’ll be able to find the support you need 24-7.
2. Get to class! It’s time to learn new things and broaden your interests. This can be a life line. You might find your interest is now in spiritual topics, art or exercise.
3. Speaking of exercise, there are few pastimes that are cheaper, easier and more spirit lifting than going for a walk. It is a proven fact that the body releases endorphins when you move. Endorphins help you feel less pain and less stress. Get moving!
Adapting to a new life gracefully means learning the steps of a new, challenging dance. Forward, forward, backward, backward: It’s all part of the flow.
Here’s a quote from the champ himself on his win:
“The biggest thing that prepares you for something like this is just the sheer experience of failure, looking at failure not as a negative but as a positive, knowing that you can learn from anything, even if it’s bad or good. If I didn’t have that failure, I wouldn’t be standing here today with the trophy. Some people get there quicker than others, some people make it look easier than others.”
Stay the course my friends, one step at a time, even when it’s two steps forward, one step back. A sense of peace comes to those who carry on.
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VIDEO BLOG: What Does My Loved One Do All Day?
In today's video, I answer a question from a viewer who is curious about what her loved ones in Heaven are doing all day. I share specific examples from three private readings where Spirit communicated about this--one of which is hilarious! Also brought up for consideration is the relevance of time to us on the Earth versus the eternal plane and why it's difficult to prove what exactly the Souls are doing in the afterlife.
In today's video, I answer a question from a viewer who is curious about what her loved ones in Heaven are doing all day. I share specific examples from three private readings where Spirit communicated about this--one of which is hilarious! Also brought up for consideration is the relevance of time to us on the Earth versus the eternal plane and why it's difficult to prove what exactly the Souls are doing in the afterlife.
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Learn to Connect with Loved Ones in Spirit
This past weekend I was sightseeing with a friend, celebrating the 4th of July holiday. While we were taking pictures with our iPhones, she asked, “Do you know of a way to zoom in all directions, rather than just vertically?” She ran her finger across a slider bar on the screen.
I replied, “Yes, you just swipe the screen with two fingers in a pinching motion. Don’t use the slider bar.”
“Oh, wow, that is so easy!”
Problem solving at it’s easiest. She just needed a little more information.
The most pervasive issue I see with people who have suffered a loss is a lack of knowledge about how a loved one in Spirit can and will communicate with them...
This past weekend I was sightseeing with a friend, celebrating the 4th of July holiday. While we were taking pictures with our iPhones, she asked, “Do you know of a way to zoom in all directions, rather than just vertically?” She ran her finger across a slider bar on the screen.
I replied, “Yes, you just swipe the screen with two fingers in a pinching motion. Don’t use the slider bar.”
“Oh, wow, that is so easy!”
Problem solving at it’s easiest. She just needed a little more information.
The most pervasive issue I see with people who have suffered a loss is a lack of knowledge about how a loved one in Spirit can and will communicate with them. Too often, people just want a medium to give them that stunning validation, rather than working to connect on their own. But when you rely upon an outside source for your validations, you're missing the beauty of a loving connection that is always available to you.
A few years ago I was in the really uncomfortable position of having hundreds of people on a wait list for a private session with me. It was a ridiculous waiting period for them and a stressful situation for me. I do not want anyone waiting years for a much needed connection and relief from grieving!
I began thinking very seriously about the best way to help others. What did I really want to do with my ability? I realized my most passionate interest lies in helping as many people as possible learn to recognize the connection with a loved one who has passed, on their own—with no medium present. It’s the old parable of, “Give a man a fish, he eats for the day. Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.”
I want you to be forever able to feel the connection to a loved one who has passed, not just during the few minutes we might spend together.
So I decided my efforts would be focused on writing and hosting group events for people to learn more.
The biggest myth about mediumship is that mediums “talk to the dead.” Sure, you can talk to anyone, living or passed—but the strength and clarity of the connection, or lack of it, will greatly affect how you perceive their replies. A medium communicates with a living spirit, and it’s nothing like having a live conversation. There are no ghosts to see, no faint whispers to strain to try and hear.
The very best thing newly bereaved people can do is educate themselves to the fullest extent possible on the ways their loved ones communicate with them energetically. This means reading books and attending group events with many mediums to see differences in how the information is received and interpreted. It’s also tremendously helpful if you take up a spiritual practice of awareness, such as meditation. When your mind is quiet, the signal from your loved ones tends to be stronger.
Last year I wrote three in-depth articles explaining the basic steps to recognizing the connection. These are still available on line (links below).
Your loved ones who have passed may not come through every time you try to contact them. But they’re around you—and the messages I’ve gotten from them, without exception, have been loving and kind. They want you to know that they can see you, they love you, and they are there to support you. And you can begin to recognize the signs from them as you acquire more information about how your connection with them works—at your own rate, without any hype from television shows or the “I’m scared of ghosts” drama.
You can read my articles by clicking through the links here:
Recognizing the Connection: August 5th
Validating the Connection: September 2nd
Receiving the Communication: September 8th
As always, if you have questions after reading these, you can get in touch with me. Why not submit your question for my video blog? But I really do mean it when I say on my web site, “I’m here to help.”
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Who Communicates During Group Sessions?
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers a question from a bereaved parent in Dallas, TX who has a concern that young children might be unable to communicate during a group event. Mollie explains why you may, or may not, receive validations from any specific Soul at a group event, what to expect at a group and the right reasons to attend this type of session.
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers a question from a bereaved parent in Dallas, TX who has a concern that young children might be unable to communicate during a group event. Mollie explains why you may, or may not, receive validations from any specific Soul at a group event, what to expect at a group and the right reasons to attend this type of session.
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