Guidance from Your Higher Self
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As I sat waiting for the stoplight to turn green, I considered which route would get me home the fastest. I was in a hurry, with a to-do list a mile long.
Turn left, and I’d risk getting stuck at a light.
Go straight and deal with multiple stops signs.
Which route would save me thirty seconds? I was getting more stressed by the nanosecond.
“Just relax a little, Mollie.”
What!? Who said that?
Have you ever wished someone would give you the answers to make your day a little easier? Here's a way to receive sage advice, instantly.
As I sat waiting for the stoplight to turn green, I considered which route would get me home the fastest. I was in a hurry, with a to-do list a mile long.
Turn left, and I’d risk getting stuck at a light.
Go straight and deal with multiple stops signs.
Which route would save me thirty seconds? I was getting more stressed by the nanosecond.
“Just relax a little, Mollie.”
What!? Who said that?
My own voice had startled me.
You see, I not only communicate with the dead, I communicate with myself. That is, my “Higher” self.
As I continued to sit, waiting on the light, a conversation with my friend Jeff suddenly came to mind.
“Every time I really need to decompress after work, I drive the inconvenient way home so I have to stop on every corner. It’s my zen moment,” he said.
The light turned green, and I went straight. And I stopped on every corner, taking a breath and simply pausing. I noticed people walking their dogs. Children playing. Many neighbors had filled their flowerpots with beautiful summer annuals. It was a pleasant day, but I hadn’t appreciated that.
When I arrived home, one minute later than I could have, I felt a lot saner.
Unfortunately, we can’t always find our way out of stress, grief or discomfort by taking the long way around. Sometimes we need to charge straight through. The trick to surviving this is to use all our resources, including our ever-present source of help – our intuition, or gut instinct, or as I call it, my “Higher” self.
The very same faculties that are used when we connect with a deceased loved one are used when we communicate with ourselves. Soul communication can be with anyone, living or passed. Why would you exclude yourself from that?
Part of living a spiritually awake life is practicing excellent self-care. It’s important to foster a spiritual connection with a loved one to help ease your grief. But, it is absolutely vital to connect with yourself as you chart the way forward after a loss.
When was the last time you checked in on You?
The way you are feeling on the surface is likely obvious. But you may need to explore deeper to see how you really feel, and determine what you need to move toward healing.
Try this experiment: Sit somewhere comfortably, close your eyes, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What do I need?”
Here’s the catch: answer the question out loud.
A key muscle to build while learning to communicate on a Soul level is the trust muscle.
We have spiritual reflexes with lightning-fast reactions. But we tend to bog down the process with analytical thinking.
When you pose a question to yourself, the answer is usually immediate, though most of us prefer to dissect it, looking for a reason not to trust our instincts. At a deep level, though, we know when it is correct.
What’s your immediate answer? Can you trust it?
The next time you are in a funk, ask yourself what you need in order to get out of it. Answer out loud. And while you’re at it, try Jeff’s method of taking the long route home to slow down and regroup.
Those “wasted” minutes might be the best you have all day.
We invite you to learn more about booking a personal session with Mollie that has the potential to ease your grieving significantly.
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Clearing Up Stuck Souls, Ghosts...(and the rest of it.)
“I am outnumbered.”
The thought sat in my stomach as if I had swallowed a brick. Last weekend, I was standing in a popular bookstore, looking through the shelves for books about mediumship. I was on a mission to discover where people–everyday, average, bereaved people–are getting information about the afterlife.
The shelf was littered with books featuring dark covers with scary, transparent figures. Words like: ghost, demons, haunting, possession, psychic attack—everywhere.
My eyes searched for the books about Heaven.
Nearly all of them have a sky on the cover with radiant light beaming out—perhaps have you seen them? I picked a few up and flipped through them. More than one of them covered the topics of spirit release, ghost busting and negative entities.
Again, the heavy thought: “I am outnumbered. I cannot make a difference.”
Is my deceased loved one okay? Are they stuck in limbo? Did they transition to Heaven?
“I am outnumbered.”
The thought sat in my stomach as if I had swallowed a brick. Last weekend, I was standing in a popular bookstore, looking through the shelves for books about mediumship. I was on a mission to discover where people–everyday, average, bereaved people–are getting information about the afterlife.
The shelf was littered with books featuring dark covers with scary, transparent figures. Words like: ghost, demons, haunting, possession, psychic attack—everywhere.
My eyes searched for the books about Heaven. Nearly all of them have a sky on the cover with radiant light beaming out—perhaps have you seen them? I picked a few up and flipped through them. More than one of them covered the topics of spirit release, ghost busting and negative entities.
Again, the heavy thought: “I am outnumbered. I cannot make a difference.”
The evening before, near the end of a group session in Madison, Wisconsin, a young woman who sat weeping, cradled in the arms of an older woman, asked me a question. I presumed them to be mother and daughter.
“My sister had a session with a medium who told her that my grandfather couldn’t communicate because he didn’t cross over and was stuck. My grandfather was a wonderful man who believed in God and led a good life. This has been so upsetting to our family. Is my grandfather okay, and why would this happen?”
I took a deep breath and counted to five.
You see, this is something I deal with every single week. And it makes my blood boil. I am so angry and disappointed at the choices other so-called mediums are making because I am often the one cleaning up the emotional mess they create.
In another example, a widow recently requested an emergency session because she was so upset by a session with another medium. She shared with me later that she had chosen the medium based upon the criteria of an inexpensive price and availability for an in-person meeting.
When the time came for her phone session, I immediately connected with her husband who had recently passed.
The reading began with her husband communicating: “Tell her I died on the best day of my life, doing what I loved.”
“He did. He truly did,” she said.
After her successful session with me, my client went on to explain that the previous medium started the session by vocally asking permission from her 34 “Spirit Guides” to connect with my client’s deceased husband. It just got worse from there. The medium stated she couldn’t connect with the husband because he was so mad at himself. He was kicking himself for dying, and stuck.
A few years ago, I had a similar experience with a young widow, who, at the end of her extremely validating phone session said to me, “Are you absolutely sure he’s all right and doesn’t blame me for his death?”
I was shocked by the question! For the last hour I had given her validations and messages of great caring and love from her young husband who acknowledged that his choices led to his passing. He died from a disease called alcoholism. I stress that this is a disease, a valid one—and not a lifestyle choice. It starts as a choice to begin drinking, but addiction takes over.
I asked her why she would even dream of posing this question after having so many validations brought forward over the last hour.
The culprit? She had seen a medium who said her husband couldn’t communicate with her because he was tormented and blamed her for his death. She should have done more, the medium said.
She was in emotional agony. As if losing her life partner and raising their child alone wasn’t a daunting enough task, now she had to also worry about him holding a grudge in the afterlife.
Last month, a woman posted repeatedly on my Facebook page, begging me to call her. English was her second language, she didn’t have full access to the Internet and her daughter had just died. She had urgent questions. Thankfully, she happened to call my office while I was in and I was able to answer.
She told me she had been to see a medium who told her that in order to spiritually connect with her daughter she had to get rid of all her daughter's possessions, “let her go” and wait 40 days. She sobbed into the phone saying she just couldn’t bring herself to throw away her daughter’s clothing, etc.
This is INSANITY. I was so upset, I prodded for the name of the medium in Chicago so I could personally hunt her down! I cannot fathom where anyone would get this information! To throw away a beloved child’s personal belongings in order to have a reading? A mandatory waiting period? I have done successful sessions with clients HOURS after a loved one’s passing. In her agony, this bereaved mother didn’t know what to believe. How could she be burdened to sort out what is spiritually true while undergoing the absolute worst trauma of her life?
Not a week goes by without someone coming to me with emotional pain caused by a bad experience with a medium. I could go on citing examples for endless days!
What gives?! My frustration with this left me stewing about what to write for a long time. I have hesitated for the simple reason that I know my stand will be unpopular, without much peer support, and I will probably lose friends.
I know some very nice people, fellow mediums, who regularly promote their practice of spirit attachment release, ghost busting and home clearings for stuck souls. I like these people and don’t want to lose their friendship.
The time has come for me to do a clearing of my own. I can’t be quiet anymore.
It is not accurate, ethical or correct for a medium to be on both sides of the fence. You cannot say, “Your loved ones are at peace.” And then, “Except maybe those souls who got stuck when they died by suicide or trauma.”
We need a complete overhaul of these false beliefs.
First of all: Where did anyone learn that a Soul could be stuck? Was that idea taught by someone who simply shared the idea that a Soul could be stuck? How many generations of teachers perpetuate the idea of stuck Souls? Does it ever stop? Where is the proof? Where is the evidence?
Second of all: How can anyone know with exactness and authority the specific details of the afterlife? Again, where is the proof? Where is the evidence?
I have read hundreds of books about people’s individual experiences with the afterlife. Everything from dreams, experiences had while in a coma, near death experiences, back from death experiences; all of it. Many stories share similar themes, but they vary widely in the details. Even faith traditions have widely varying views of what happens after this life, and sometimes even they change their official opinions. In April of 2007, Pope Benedict XVI officially did away with the state of limbo for the Catholic Church –after 800 years of indoctrination!! Throw in the fear based drama on the Internet and social media, and it’s nearly impossible to know who or what to believe.
STOP!
Let me tell you everything I know about the afterlife: Who we are, our Soul, doesn’t die or cease communicating upon the death of the physical body.
This I can prove to you by providing verifiable details and facts received by mental telepathy from the deceased and what they see happening in your life since their death.
Honestly, that’s it. That is all I can prove.
Everything else that I can share with you is information based on my experiences within the context of a “reading” or spirit communication done for clients. If I present you with information you don’t agree with, please disregard it and use your own truth barometer to decide what works for you.
This leaves most questions open-ended and up for personal interpretation.
The question I get asked the most often is: Is my loved one at peace?
With all of the books, TV shows, websites and mediums promoting ghosts, earthbound souls, and hauntings--I get it. I deeply understand your panic and need to know if your loved one is okay. It is our human nature to care about the wellbeing of our children, spouses and friends, and when they die, and we can no longer see and speak with them to verify if they are indeed, “okay,” panic can quickly take over.
A medium seems like miracle cure for this; someone who can see and communicate with the dead. Surely, someone with this ability can assuage our pain by letting us know how the deceased loved one is doing. Right?
Well, let me tell you a little about people with spiritual abilities. I’ll start with me.
I did not request this ability. In fact, I didn’t even want it when it showed up in my life. I tried everything to get rid of it. I no more choose to be a medium than I choose to have freckles.
And neither did most other people with spiritual abilities. It happens to people in all walks of life, on every continent and with every personality type. Some people born with a spiritual ability are complete jerks. Some higher power didn’t select a chosen few to act as earth angels with spiritual abilities.
Just like some folks have light hair, some people can communicate with the dead. Just like some light-haired people will be up to no good in life, so will some people with spiritual abilities.
Anyone with an ability is given free will to use it as they choose.
And anyone seeking the assistance of a person with a spiritual ability is free to choose with whom they would like to work.
What I am hoping you will take away from this article is:
As a Spiritual practitioner the “services” you choose to offer may cause extreme, deep and lasting pain for bereaved persons if you cannot provide them with a validating connection. The only, and I mean ONLY thing you should say to a client you cannot provide healing validation to is: “I am sorry. I am unable to connect.” Accept full responsibility, and nothing less. It is honorable and ethical to be truthful and say that you cannot connect.
A medium’s inability to provide a validating connection is the fault of the medium, and not the deceased.
As a Spiritual client you are responsible for doing your research before booking a session. You must educate yourself about the differences betweens mediums and psychics; having a session by phone or in-person; and finding a medium who has garnered a reputation for healing work over a long period of time. Watching television shows is NOT educational about how mediumship works. It is entertainment, for which you pay quite dearly each month. Just look at your cable bill. If you book an appointment with a medium who also offers to “release” stuck souls, you have been forewarned that they may tell you your loved one is stuck, too.
You must accept the responsibility for doing the research to book a medium who is known for accuracy and ethics. No one will ever try to stop you from booking the psychic a friend knows, who for $65 will do a reading for you in a pub every other Thursday night. Is your pain that casual? So it can be healed in a restaurant in 5-10 minutes in front of a room full of people? Or do you need a private session focused on you alone? This is your choice.
Your healing is your responsibility.
To create a world full of ethical and responsible mediums is a battle I know I will never win. To teach every average bereaved person how to select a medium who is right for them, or better, how to connect on their own—is a mountain I cannot climb.
But, I have just made you think. And that means I may have helped one person reconsider these unhealthy beliefs. Whether you are the spiritual worker or the person seeking help, I ask you to please uphold the highest standards for healing.
Personal responsibility matters. We are all connected and the choices we make create a ripple effect of fear or love. The choice is yours.
Disclaimer: This article reflects my opinion and belief that a person who has died is "okay." My belief is a result of having the first hand experience of delivering thousands of validating, verifiable messages from a person who died. At no point, in any session, be it a private or a public group, has a deceased person reported being stuck, held back, unwell, unwilling or unable to communicate for any reason whatsoever. I have ended a few private sessions where the information received was not understood, but never a case where that was the fault of the deceased. If this belief doesn't work for you, please disregard it.
I stand firmly in the belief that it is spiritually safe to die. If I stand alone, I am okay with that.
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To Cherish That Which Cannot Be Replaced.
Being a conduit of messages of healing and love for those who have passed on brings me back to the same emotional place, again and again, even after years of doing this work.
I usually get all broken up like this after doing many consecutive sessions with people who have lost a loved one unexpectedly or tragically. (Which is nearly everyone I work with.) This week it was triggered by a mother who lost a child she had devoted the last 10 years of her life protecting. It was followed by a question from a different mother who was deeply concerned her deceased son might...
Being a conduit of messages of healing and love for those who have passed on brings me back to the same emotional place, again and again, even after years of doing this work.
I usually get all broken up like this after doing many consecutive sessions with people who have lost a loved one unexpectedly or tragically. (Which is nearly everyone I work with.) This week it was triggered by a mother who lost a child she had devoted the last 10 years of her life protecting. It was followed by a question from a different mother who was deeply concerned her deceased son might feel she was “getting rid of him” if she scattered his ashes. Next came an evidence-packed message from a person who went missing in 2009. I don’t think I will ever get over seeing the shock on my client’s faced as they asked, “Do you think my sibling is dead?”
Deep breath. I reminded myself to breathe as I prepared to answer the question, as I do so now.
Life is about cherishing relationships. It’s the only “thing” we have that is real and lasting. And it is completely intangible: you can’t see, touch or buy it. It can only be felt, and to have that feeling of being close to another is the most precious and priceless experience we can have.
It is so easy to get caught up in our lives, perhaps the easiest misstep of all. We get ensnared into our stories and scripts: the ones we write and the ones we have starring roles in. We get obsessed over what people think of us (usually nothing, they are busy thinking of what you think of them), what real estate, car or status symbol we will get next, how we can get out of debt, or my favorite: what vacation we can take that will give us an escape from all of the above!
I am guilty. I am saddened to admit that I am speaking from experience. I too, have had extended time periods in my life where I operated solely in survival mode. I missed so many important events as a result: school plays, breakfasts together, dinner parties and I will never forget the year I missed summer. Living in Wisconsin, I can tell you, that’s tragic. I was just too busy to plant my vegetables or tend my garden.
I had a quick FaceTime chat with my sister-in-law over coffee one morning, who lost her Dad a few years ago. He was just in his early 60s when he passed unexpectedly. We concluded that the lessons of grieving are so painful and yet so important. One big lesson is to do things now. If there is anything that you want to do, need to do, should do, can do…the time for that is now.
It’s difficult to take a chance on being wrong, rejected, or failing at whatever it is that you decide you need to do, but your willingness to persist though those feelings will reward you with something much sweeter: peace. You might even qualify for the grand-prizes of lasting joy, satisfaction and fulfillment!
Listen: living life fully means taking these messages from the dead and turning them into lessons to live by.
No matter how much you’ve been hurt in the past, you still have to operate with a heart open to love.
You are going to have to fight feelings of inadequacy with positive self-talk the same way you resist urges to eat too much chocolate when you want to lose weight.
You will have to look at your schedule and your budget and make some tough decisions about what gets top-billing in your life.
I sincerely hope you choose to put people in the top spot. When it’s all said and done here on Earth, the things you take with you are the memories, the energy you invested in relationships and the love.
That beautiful home, the car you wanted so badly, and even that family ring that holds such sentimental value to you all stay here. The fame, acceptance and popularity you strived for mean very little in the afterlife when the playing field is leveled to a place where everyone is an incredible being of light.
The deceased communicate to help us live better in the here-and-now. The key to arriving at that place satisfied with the way you lived your life is to make choices now that create relationships filled with giving and receiving unconditional love.
And now I am back to where I was yesterday during that reading with a mother who recently lost her adult son.
“He shows himself standing next to you. I can feel the emotional closeness. His head is held high–he communicates that he received unconditional love from you and his father. He wants to thank you for this. It’s the greatest gift he ever received.”
He died of an overdose. He was, and still is, so very loved.
Don’t wait. Open your heart and push the edge of possibility right now!
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Quieting the Peanut Gallery
Back when my children were young, to try and save myself some embarrassment whenever we dined at friends’ homes, I taught them they could use one of two answers if asked if they liked the food: “Yes! Thanks for cooking!” or “It’s interesting. Thanks for cooking!” Blurting out “It’s horrible!” wasn’t helpful or kind. A meal is a gift, not a place to inject negative opinions.
Back when my children were young, to try and save myself some embarrassment whenever we dined at friends’ homes, I taught them they could use one of two answers if asked if they liked the food: “Yes! Thanks for cooking!” or “It’s interesting. Thanks for cooking!” Blurting out “It’s horrible!” wasn’t helpful or kind. A meal is a gift, not a place to inject negative opinions.
Well, it’s been an “interesting” week for me. Like anyone else who is coping with the human condition 100% of the time, I can handle most stresses if they come at me one by one. But when stress comes slapping in from every angle, it’s time to stop and regroup before I reach the breakdown point. That’s the “interesting” meal the Universe cooked up for me this week. Family, work, health, and tax day…one big, simmering pot of chaos.
When I logged online, I found a nastier-than-usual dose of comments from the Peanut Gallery called Facebook. I’m not going to share the details of what I regularly receive, but it goes way beyond, “This is devil’s work!” But alas, it’s Facebook, and lots of people spew their hate in 30 seconds and move on. Then there’s the Peanut Gallery called my Inbox: I’m amazed when people take the time to email me nasty comments or even “helpful” suggestions that aren’t helpful at all. All of this adds up to a lot of chatter in my head. Not the dead people this time—just me, The Peanut Gallery of Mollie, chiding myself and sinking deeper into the problem instead of the solution.
I was so stressed out I couldn’t sleep—which is one trouble I never have. Being a traveler, I’ve learned to sleep wherever I am. I gave in at 3 a.m. and decided to have a cup of tea. As I sat there sipping, I tried to dream up logical answers for each situation, and I just couldn’t. So instead I prayed and asked for angelic help, for Spirit, for God, for my dead brother—-anything, anyone who could show me the path to serenity.
The angels didn’t manifest. There was no sudden miracle. Geez, I couldn’t even get my brother to make a light to flicker to show his presence. I felt lost, except for one small thought that popped into my head.
The chaos would keep cranking up until I changed course.
I knew it was true. Change is the only way out of an issue. Either the issue changes, or you change yourself.
I realized my work schedule needed a major overhaul—and how disappointing that would be for some people. I realized that my injured back needs to be babied for the next few weeks. Lots of inconvenience there! The other situations lay outside of me. I could only change my reaction to them.
I gave thanks to the stress for showing me the areas I need to work on. I also gave thanks to the Universe, or God, for giving me this lesson in a compassionate way. I’m in a challenging situation that I can’t transform quickly. But even on a lousy day there is always a “best case scenario” that can happen within the framework that exists. I crawled back into bed and got up two hours later, still exhausted and with a migraine. That’s when grace started unfurling on my behalf, and I saw the best case scenario playing out right before my eyes.
During an early morning work meeting, I was encouraged to stay strong and reminded that, “It’s darkest before the dawn.”
A good friend with whom I haven’t spoken in months sent me this text out of the blue: “Don’t worry. It will all be all right.” You’ve got to be kidding! His Soul was picking up my spiritual SOS. Trusting his intuition, he responded to my energetic plea for help.
And while the troublesome situations sat and simmered unchanged, I checked out of life for three hours to receive the gift of a massage and water therapy for my back at a beautiful spa. The gift was given by someone who loves me and wants me to be able to work pain-free. I protested when it was offered, thinking it was just too much to accept. But then I realized it was the Universe conspiring to help me. As I relaxed into the hot water, I told the Peanut Gallery of Mollie it had two choices: shut up or give thanks. So, for the next three hours, I silently expressed gratitude for everything and focused on my trusty affirmation of many years, “ I am healthy, happy, whole, well, loved and abundant.”
In the massage room there was a small card waiting for me with a picture of a flowing stream and a quote.
“Hardships often prepare people for an extraordinary destiny.” --C.S. Lewis
“Go with the flow,” I thought, looking at the picture of the stream. That’s when I thought of you. The thousands of people who look to me to be a light seen from the depths of their grief. The extraordinary, everyday people I meet who are living through the hell of loss, and who can’t change a damn thing about their situations.
I walked out of the spa feeling much better. Nothing had actually changed. I still have schedule, family, health and tax-day stresses to confront. But now I’m sure I can handle them, especially knowing that I have coworkers, friends, strangers and even a Higher Power willing to encourage, comfort and inspire me along the way.
Perhaps you need to give your Peanut Gallery an ultimatum, too. Taking a break, even a few hours, from situations you cannot change and infusing your being with gratitude can help get you through the day more peacefully. Prayers are often answered by our friends. Accept the Divine’s response to your requests through the people directed into your life. Just say “Yes!” And don’t forget to add a heartfelt “Thank you!”
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VIDEO BLOG: Addressing the Myths of Suicide.
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from a bereaved woman who has experienced phenomena in her home after her fiancee's suicide. Mollie shares her knowledge and puts to rest some of the myths associated about what happens to a soul who completes suicide. The blog wraps up with recommended resources for those who are rebuilding their lives after this type of loss.
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from a bereaved woman who has experienced phenomena in her home after her fiancee's suicide. Mollie shares her knowledge and puts to rest some of the myths about what happens to a soul who completes suicide. The blog wraps up with recommended resources for those who are rebuilding their lives after this type of loss. The Alliance of Hope can be found at www.allianceofhope.org Click HERE to visit their website.
You should also read this article from 2014: Opening Up About Suicide
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VIDEO BLOG: Receiving Communications and Signs from a Child in Spirit
Evidential Psychic Medium, Mollie Morning Star, answers questions from two bereaved mothers about afterlife connections with their daughters. One passed two weeks ago, the other, two years ago. Mollie gives both mothers helpful information on what type of communication to expect as the years pass. People often look for the same "signs" and yet, as they become more spiritually aware, the signs and communication change. The blog wraps up with 3 recommended blog articles from 2014 to help them learn more about recognizing the spiritual connection.
Today I am answering questions from two bereaved mothers about afterlife connections with their daughters. One passed two weeks ago, the other, two years ago. I give both mothers helpful information on what type of communication to expect as the years pass. People often look for the same "signs" and yet, as they become more spiritually aware, the signs and communication change. The blog wraps up with 3 recommended blog articles from 2014 to help them learn more about recognizing the spiritual connection.
You'll want to read these three blog posts from last year:
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How Do You Perceive Reality?
Have you had upsetting thoughts about a passed loved one missing your important life events such as the birth of a child, weddings or serious illness? You need to read this article for an easy to understand explanation and validation of how your loved ones are definitely seeing what is currently happening in your life.
It’s Spring in the Upper Midwest! Hallelujah! The weather was bright and sunny today and the forecast is above freezing for the next week and a half. Melting snow and rain boot season is here, and it brings with it a vibrant energy of growth. There’s a lot of discussion about when spring really starts. Is it a specific date? When the crocus blooms? For me, it’s when I walk outside and the cold doesn’t hurt my face! (Very low standards here in Wisconsin.)
The return of the birds is one of my favorite signs of spring. They have been chirping their beaks off at dawn for the last two weeks. A few days ago, I saw a frustrated little chickadee out in my garden. It reminded me of one of my favorite analogies for explaining how loved ones in Spirit do not miss out on what happens in our lives.
My garden is very narrow and is shaded by the house most of the day. I usually move my computer up to my dining room to work so I can look out the window and enjoy the flowers. To help me get a better view of my roses, and to increase the amount of light the plants receive, I lean old mirrors against the fence. It’s really neat, and I can see so much more of the garden from my window.
I first spotted the chickadee through the kitchen window while I was pouring my morning coffee. He was hopping around on the snow in front of a mirror and would try to jump into it. He’d fall back onto the snow, shake his head, and do it again. This sort of scene carried on all day. He’d hop onto a hydrangea branch, stare at himself in the mirror and try to jump onto the branch that was reflected in the glass. He’d perch on the top edge of the mirror, lean over, look at himself and AGAIN try to somersault into what he perceived as another part of the garden.
Mirrors provide an interesting view, don’t they? In the chickadee’s case, he just couldn’t see beyond his own reality.
One of the great concerns people share with me during their grieving is that their loved ones didn’t live to see their grandchildren, graduations, weddings, etc.
But your loved ones in Spirit really do see what happens after they pass. They share those special moments with you, both the joyous and difficult ones.
To help people understand this better, I explain it like this:
Everyone has seen a television show with a police questioning room in it. The subject sits on a chair alone and is surrounded by walls made of two-way mirrors. All he can see is his own reality reflected back at him. Yet on the “Other Side” of those mirrors sit many people who are able to see through the glass and observe everything the subject is doing.
Easy to understand, right? We get very caught up in our reality, because it’s all we can see in the looking glass. But that is not true for our loved ones who have passed into the next dimension—call it Heaven, the Other Side, the Spirit World, or whatever you like. They don’t miss anything!
Just a few weeks ago I connected a family to their son who had recently passed. After his message, he communicated for me to “Tell my mom I see the new broom.” Sure enough, she had just bought a new broom for the kitchen. If he sees the new broom, he certainly sees the big things that are happening! It’s important to pay attention to these kinds of small details during a connection with a medium. They are so specific that only those living in the home will be able to validate them. Non-Google-able, as I like to say.
Try to remember the mirror analogy next time you feel that wave of sadness creep in and you think of what your loved one is missing. They see you. They send you their support and prayers.
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Preparing for a Wonderful Session
Every day I see people in need of a healing mediumship session sabotage their opportunity because they are uninformed about my number one top tip to ensure a wonderful connection. Over the past few years, the interest in mediumship has absolutely exploded. So many people are seeking a personal session but don't know where to start. I'm here to help! After years of doing professional readings, I'd love to share three of my top tips to make certain you have the helpful experience you need to take the next step on your path toward healing after a loss.
Over the past few years, the interest in mediumship has absolutely exploded. So many people are seeking a personal session but don't know where to start. After years of doing professional readings, I'd love to share my top tips to ensure you have the helpful experience you need to take the next step on your path toward healing after a loss.
1. Keep your information to yourself. If you only take ONE single piece of knowledge away from reading this article, please, let it be this. When you are seeking evidence validating the existence of the afterlife, it is absolutely VITAL that you do not share information about your deceased loved one, or yourself, with a medium prior to the session. It is the job of the medium to work with the Soul/Spirit of your loved one to obtain facts and evidence that validate their identity and proof of survival.
Actions to consider:
- Do not allow mediums to have access to your Facebook profile by being their "Friend" on Facebook.
- "Like" professional pages on Facebook and and opt to get notifications when they update their page. (If you don't opt for notifications, you will not receive their posts.)
- Have a friend book your session for you and use a false name. That's a bit extreme, but if you are concerned, then simply do it.
- Do not email a medium and tell them who you are hoping to reach. It will hinder, not help your connection.
I cannot stress this enough: this is the most important component of a great session and it is completely your responsibility to keep your information private. This is why I do not read for friends nor do I recommend repeated sessions.
2. Keep your connection options open. Very few people live within a reasonable driving distance of a reputable medium; having your session by telephone, Skype or FaceTime is almost always the best solution. I have been doing phone/Skype sessions for years with excellent success. I recommend it over an in-person session for three main reasons:
- Ease of scheduling and on-time appointments
- Access to reputable, excellent mediums no matter where you live
- Additional evidence can be given when you are not visible to the medium
The most interesting part of this is the last. I cannot tell you how many phone sessions I have done for people where their deceased loved one communicated something like, "Tell her I love her short, blonde hair." When in fact, the person on the other end of the phone had undergone a drastic hair change since their loved one's passing. During one phone session, a deceased husband communicated to his living wife that he saw a problem with his wife's neck, and he noted that it was quite serious. The reply was priceless, "Oh my!! I'm sitting here in a neck brace and I am having surgery in a few weeks!" None of that information would have been validating if the client had been sitting in front of me.
3. Learn all you can before your session. This is especially important for the newly-bereaved. Popular television shows have opened the minds of people everywhere to the possibility of the afterlife, and simultaneously, filled those same minds with a lot of erroneous information. Mediums do not see ghosts and talk to the dead. (At least the reputable, excellent mediums I know do not!) Communication with a deceased loved one is done by mental telepathy; it is a language of energy and of the Soul. It is very subtle. If you come into a session with the expectation of sitting down and talking to your loved one, you will be disappointed. The objective of a session is to receive validations and evidence of the afterlife, and you should expect that outcome. I personally will not conduct a session with anyone until they have allowed me to thoroughly explain how the communication takes place from a technical standpoint. Only then will I proceed with communication. For me to jump right into the session would be similar to offering the newly-bereaved a session in Japanese, when they don't speak the language. Want to know more? Here are some terrific books to get you started:
- All books by George Anderson including, "Walking in the Garden of Souls" and "Lessons from the Light"
- "Soul Shift" and "Messages from the Afterlife" by Mark Ireland
- The Power of the Soul by John Holland
These are just my top three tips, but there is so much more information available on my blog. Please take some time to read up to prepare yourself for a successful session with the medium you choose.
Oh, and one bonus tip since you made it all the way to the end: remember that celebrity mediums are still celebrities, and entertainment is not education.
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The Criticism Cure
The wisdom shared from the Spirit world during sessions is always meant to help us live better in the here and now. Theirs is a unique viewpoint; they've crossed that bridge and have seen the results of their actions from all perspectives. In other words, they know some good stuff about life.
While I was connecting a daughter to her mother in Spirit recently, the mother acknowledged that her daughter's marriage had undergone a transformation for the better, significantly better, in the last year. The woman smiled, and said to me, "It really has. We are much closer and happier now." Curious, I asked what she did that resulted in such an improvement? Her answer was simple...
The wisdom shared from the Spirit world during sessions is always meant to help us live better in the here and now. Theirs is a unique viewpoint; they've crossed that bridge and have seen the results of their actions from all perspectives. In other words, they know some good stuff about life.
While I was connecting a daughter to her mother in Spirit recently, the mother acknowledged that her daughter's marriage had undergone a transformation for the better, significantly better, in the last year. The woman smiled, and said to me, "It really has. We are much closer and happier now." Curious, I asked what she did that resulted in such an improvement? Her answer was simple, "I stopped criticizing my partner."
Inspired by her relationship transformation, I did an exhaustive search online for articles about criticism, the potential it yields for harm (HUGE) and the potential it might hold for positive change (small, and only when given by a unrelated third party).
Thinking back to when my children were very young, I remember times when a teacher or another parent would tell me something positive my child had done. I would think to myself, "Why do they act exactly the opposite at home? I've asked them a million times to do that!" I'll also never forget the day a dear friend of mine called in tears because a mutual friend had offered her "constructive criticism" in front of group of people. And who hasn't had a relative offer a cutting remark during the holidays?
I am not an expert in psychology, but I can tell you this: criticism is a killer when delivered by someone you love.
It wipes out trust.
It obliterates intimacy.
It causes pain.
It creates distance.
There are few places where criticism can be offered and accepted with helpful results; for example, when it is sought from a professional counselor or a trusted mentor. These specific people are teachers for us; we expect their feedback and are open to it.
But, when criticism comes from a parent, partner, lover, spouse, friend or relative it hurts. It damages the relationship. Our friends and family in the Spirit world have the benefit of seeing the big picture. Often they come through in a reading with apologies for judging others too harshly during their time on Earth. Their experience offers a valuable lesson for those of us willing to listen: it's time for a criticism cure.
Our basic needs in life, outside of food and shelter, are love and acceptance. These needs are universal.
The very fact that you are reading this blog means you are interested in self-awareness and spiritual growth. I'm willing to bet 100% of you have a fully-formed, inner critic who works overtime. You are aware of your issues, and the last thing you need is for your mother or spouse to highlight them for you.
A true intention to help someone comes from a place of love.
Whether you are trying to figure out how to deal with an outside critic or calm your own inner critic, remember that statement: A true intention to help comes from a place of love.
It can be hard to take criticism from a loved one, and even harder to look at ourselves as being too critical. Want to make changes in the way you approach your relationships? Offer loving and positive suggestions instead of highlighting what someone is doing wrong. Never attack a person; address their behavior.
Instead of saying to someone: "You have such a low self-esteem. Your life will just be full of problems until you correct that," try: "I really value you and our connection. You add something unique to my life. You've grown so much over the years, I notice the self work you are doing. I love you."
The best, strongest and most growth-oriented relationships are based on unconditional love, kindness and acceptance. People suffering with a low self-esteem are probably keenly aware of that, and having it thrown in their face again is not going to be helpful. Instead, offer encouragement. Relationships are mirrors that show us we are worthy of love.
Marriages and friendships don't end because the mutual support was just too much to handle, they end because the flaw-finding became toxic.
One of the best articles I discovered about what DOES work in a relationship is Masters of Love, by Emily Esfahani. My favorite quote from this article: "Kindness, on the other hand, glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated-feel loved."
Many years ago while on vacation in Hawaii, I met a restaurant reviewer while relaxing at the pool. I'll never forget something he said to me, "We never give anyone a poor review. The unspoken rule here in Hawaii is, 'Never say bad.' We simply promote and highlight the restaurants that are doing a great job."
Imagine the fundamental change we could make in our relationships and our own happiness if we resolved to silence the critic and "Never say bad." Every word of support we choose over criticism is a seed for our relationship growth. What we plant now, in our homes, at our holiday gatherings and within ourselves will be harvested perennially in years to come. Treating one another with loving kindness, patience and gentleness could be the greatest gift we give to ourselves and those we love--no wrapping required. What will you choose to cultivate?
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Signs of Hope.
There is nothing like the holiday season's ability to inspire us with joy or fill us with sorrow, practically at the same time. The melody of a familiar Christmas carol, the smell of cookies and pine, and the unpacking of family ornaments all have the potential to whisk our hearts back to happy moments. And it's a wonderful place to linger; memories of a cherished loved one are absolutely the greatest gift we can ever receive and hold dear.
Your loved ones in Spirit are aware of how much they are missed during celebrations, and they wish to make their loving presence known...
There is nothing like the holiday season's ability to inspire us with joy or fill us with sorrow, practically at the same time. The melody of a familiar Christmas carol, the smell of cookies and pine, and the unpacking of family ornaments all have the potential to whisk our hearts back to happy moments. And it's a wonderful place to linger; memories of a cherished loved one are absolutely the greatest gift we can ever receive and hold dear.
Your loved ones in Spirit are aware of how much they are missed during celebrations, and they wish to make their loving presence known. Family traditions are often carried forward in honor of a special person who has passed away. If you stop and think about them for a moment, do you realize in doing that, you are sending a "sign" to a loved one in Spirit that YOU are with THEM?
Have you ever considered that perhaps your loved one is looking for a "sign" from you?
I'm often asked about specific signs from loved ones who have passed, and the answer is the same for everyone. Whatever makes you think of your loved one and causes you to feel something emotionally or physically in that moment, that's your sign. There are so many ways for a loved one in Spirit to share a loving thought with you. Perhaps you'll see their name printed on a magazine in an odd space, find coins, or hear a special song on the radio as you scan through the channels. I've shared my story many times about my own personal sign from my older brother who passed 19 years ago. For many years, I've been finding paper money in the strangest places, and often in odd amounts. I've had five dollar bills being pushed up in my garden with the daffodils on my birthday in May. Once, I stepped onto a pile of cash in an empty parking lot, $168, the exact amount I needed for a doctor visit that week. It took me a LONG TIME to see the connection: my brother's name is Bill. It's almost embarrassing that I didn't get it sooner !
A few weeks ago I received a spectacular message in the form of two blue jays. I had woken up early that morning, full of excitement to film an episode for a new TV show. (It will be airing in a few months!) As I sat down at my desk with coffee, I was immediately drawn to look out the window into the the garden. There, perched on the fence, were two gorgeous blue jays, yapping and squawking to get my attention. Perhaps it's not uncommon in the Upper Midwest, except that I have never once, in 12 years of living here, seen a blue jay in my neighborhood. With my curiosity piqued, I did an internet search to see what special meaning a blue jay holds in animal lore. This is what I found: "Blue jay people are learning to embrace a more exciting, flamboyant and glamorous life while at the same time fitting in wherever they choose to land. Blue jay arrives onto the scene with beauty, color, energy and commanding attention like royalty or stardom walking on the red carpet."
The perfect message for a day of working on TV!
My Blue Jay visit inspired me to paint this for a friend.
The comfort granted through a small sign from a loved one cannot be conveyed in earthly terms. Honestly, I believe it sometimes makes the difference between living a day in peace, and wishing you would have never awakened. We can't know the pain of another, but this time of year we all really need to dig deep and find gentle compassion for the newly-bereaved and for bereaved parents.
The first few years without a beloved parent present during the holiday celebrations can be very difficult. It's a quandary for those who have been blessed with strong, close, parent-child relationships. No one ever takes a happy moment with a loved one for granted but the truth is, there are some mothers who set the room aglow with their holiday cheer. Those moms who fill every heart with tender joy and every belly with her secret recipes. There's always that crazy cousin or uncle who is life of the party and thrills everyone with his wild stories while the laughter lasts all night long. They are missed terribly at the holidays!
It would be just like that crazy cousin to pull a prank as a sign from Spirit, wouldn't it? Perhaps lights flickering? And your mom might send you a sign in the form of a familiar smell while driving in a closed car. Perhaps a friend will randomly email you a quote that happened to be a favorite of your loved one in Spirit. Keep you heart and eyes open to the many ways you can be touched by love.
We have to keep on, in whatever way we can, and look for those unexpected moments of serendipity that prove we never face a day alone.
There is another way you can be graced with hope from a loved one without even realizing it's happening. At some point, we all come up against a bad day, when the grief just hurts and the loneliness is overwhelming. We huddle up somewhere safe and alone, and release the tears. Eventually the tears dry up, the tissues run out and we find ourselves getting back to business. It's in those quiet moments that the love of Spirit is flowing directly into your Soul. The power or prayer or intention is unlimited, and you need to know that your loved one is praying for you, thinking about you and sending you all the love in the universe in those moments of despair. So silent is the exchange that you are unaware, but somehow, someway, you found the strength to pick up and try again. It's a gift of grace.
Above all, be gentle during this season. Be gentle with yourself and everyone you meet. Walk slower, listen more, compromise when you can, forgive, forgive and forgive. Be the gift of love to everyone you encounter.
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The Right Place, The Right Time.
I'm just back from the end of my fall tour which concluded in New England on Sunday. I had such a great time traveling, seeing the autumn colors and making new friends both in the flesh and in Spirit. These intimate group readings truly allow us the opportunity to share these incredible encounters on a personal level with Spirit and one another.
I'm just back from the end of my fall tour which concluded in New England on Sunday. I had such a great time traveling, seeing the autumn colors and making new friends both in the flesh and in Spirit. These intimate group readings truly allow us the opportunity to share these incredible encounters on a personal level with Spirit and one another.
Yet from time to time, it's natural for all of us to wonder if we're on the right path. And though I love my job, sometimes the simple desire to sleep in my own bed gets me wondering. Luckily, if I'm ever curious whether I'm in the right place, Spirit always shows up with some wonderful coincidence to show me my path is true. This was the case during my recent travels, and chances are, Spirit reaches out to you the same way, too.
After landing at Boston Logan airport Thursday evening in dreary rain, my assistant, Mary, and I drove to New Hampshire for the night. We don't have much extra time while on a multi-city tour, but we try to squeeze in an hour or two of local flavor each morning whenever possible. The first night we stayed at an historic inn near Portsmouth, on Castle Island. When the sun came up Friday morning, we looked out the window to see we were surrounded by water, boats and beautiful fall foliage. It was breathtaking and incredibly peaceful. We made our way down to breakfast, which was served in a gorgeous dining room with a domed ceiling, a roaring fire and overstuffed chairs. It was emblematic of quintessential New England charm, and we smiled at each other and stifled a giggle while listening to the valet speak in his thick Boston accent. A young woman came to the table and introduced herself as our server. We remarked about how wonderful the atmosphere was, and how stunning the fall leaves were as they were reflected off the water. I asked if she was from New Hampshire. She said, yes, she lived there most of her life but was born in Wisconsin. With my curiosity piqued, I inquired, "What town?" "Oh, a little place called Sheboygan," she replied. We could hardly believe that the first person we met on the first morning of our trip was from the same small town we had left only hours beforehand! It was a sure sign to me from Spirit that we were in the right place.
At Castle Island, New Hampshire
Another string of interesting coincidences happened while on tour in California three weeks ago which also let me know I was in the right place, at the right time. Flash back to a year ago: I was invited by Marc Mondavi to be a special guest at a wine dinner at the Iron Horse Hotel in Milwaukee, to introduce the release of his label produced by Charles Krug called, The Divining Rod. Marc uses dowsing rods to source water in many of the vineyards in Napa and calls himself a "Water Witch." It was a really fun event, Marc had copper rods for everyone and demonstrated his dowsing methods and I did random readings while everyone enjoyed a fabulous meal. Fast forward to this April, when my ultra-cool, psychic friend, Mark Christopher Nelson, said during a reading that he saw me "At a very special winery" in the near future.
This brings us up to the present, mid-October, and an amazing coincidence. While on tour in Northern California, a good friend of mine took me to Napa for lunch and a late afternoon drive up the Silverado Trail. The trail is 26-mile scenic route from Napa to Calistoga with vineyard after vineyard. It is absolutely gorgeous in the fall, and with the setting sun illuminating the hills, it was just sensational! Near the end of our drive, I realized the light was nearly gone and I wanted to take some photos. I asked my friend to pull into the next winery. A minute later she pulled into a long driveway, only to round the corner and see a large "Charles Krug" sign. A very special winery indeed! They had closed a few minutes earlier but were kind enough to let us in for a quick look around and a chance to capture a few splendid pictures. I had to shake my head at the connection; I literally have no ties to any winery in Napa (or anywhere else for that matter) so it really delighted me to visit the home of the people I had met the year before at the special wine dinner.
At Charles Krug Vineyard, California.
The string of coincidences got one step more bizarre when a friend, who doesn't know any of this, sent me a quote from a book called "The Divining Rod," by Michael Knight. Okay Universe, I got it!
The signs are everywhere if we only choose to see them. It's not only about receiving a sign from a loved one who has passed. It could be a road marker, like the signs I received, that in the Divine scheme of things, I was in the right place, at the right time, following my path for the highest good.
Right now, all my signs are pointing to turkey dinners, festive decorations, cuddles with my kitty and cherished time with family and friends. To all of you who have supported me during my travels this year, I thank you! It was my greatest pleasure and a humble honor to experience your loved ones with you.
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Playing Games with Spirit
When was the last time you had fun talking to a deceased loved one? Strange question, right? All too often when we are longing for a connection, a sign, or some form of communication, we are reaching out in desperation, almost begging our loved ones to acknowledge their presence in our lives. We wait for the lights to flicker, or the photo to fly off the wall...the more dramatic the sign, the closer they are, right? Not so fast...in all of our urgency we often overlook the simple ways they reach out to us every day. Not every butterfly that flutters by is a sign from our departed loved ones, but occasionally, it just might be so.
When was the last time you had fun talking to a deceased loved one? Strange question, right? All too often when we are longing for a connection, a sign, or some form of communication, we are reaching out in desperation, almost begging our loved ones to acknowledge their presence in our lives. We wait for the lights to flicker, or the photo to fly off the wall...the more dramatic the sign, the closer they are, right? Not so fast...in all of our urgency we often overlook the simple ways they reach out to us every day. Not every butterfly that flutters by is a sign from our departed loved ones, but occasionally, it just might be so.
The overarching need for our loved ones to communicate with us after death is to assure us they are still alive and connected. That really is it. Their presence, no matter how we manage to feel or perceive it, is serving that purpose. The more serious and desperate we are, the more difficult it is for us to notice the small signs. So for anyone wishing to communicate with a loved one or trying to develop their intuition, I suggest making a game out of it. That's right...play with it! It is a fun way to test your ability and sharpen your awareness.
One of the best ways I have found to hone intuition is by using oracle cards. These are different from tarot cards in that each card has a specific meaning, and a guidebook explains what each cards means. You can ask questions about your life when you need a spiritual perspective. You can also use the cards as a tool to sharpen your awareness: simply choose a card and before looking at the image, try to glean information about it. When I was first developing my abilities, a friend would pick a card, then try to mentally project the image to me. It's great fun. Anyone can try this.
Last weekend a friend came over for a day of fun, baking and friendship. She is also a medium, so naturally we like to push ourselves by testing new methods of connecting with Spirit. We concoct crazy card readings. We try different ways of choosing cards and use several different decks together, pulling a few cards from each. It was a fun day of play. We certainly didn't take ourselves too seriously and our games involved a lot of laughter. And sometimes, things that come up just don't seem to make sense. In fact, that's completely normal. Intuitive games and messages won't always be immediately clear, but it's important to sit with the information anyway. If you try this at home, remember, the information may be confusing in the moment, but that doesn't mean you are getting wrong information.
While I was connecting with my friend's son who had passed, he showed me the image of a balloon, and a short, four-lettered man's name starting with "A." Unsure, I asked,"Well, is it anyone's birthday?" Sometimes I see balloons if it is. Remember, we were playing...this isn't a serious situation or life-changing reading. I got the impression that the balloon was from a balloon release in her son's honor, but we didn't have any idea what the "A" name connection was. A few hours later, the mystery was solved when she went home and read her mail. One of the balloons had been found in a cornfield by a woman who wrote that she, too, had lost a son named Adam. The woman shared that she had been to see a medium, and that my friend should take comfort in knowing her son would always be with her. Two families, separated by many miles, connected by a balloon and possibly fate. What a powerful message emerged from our "play!" Had we considered the information wrong just because it didn't make sense right away, we might have lost focus on the deeper meaning that would eventually reveal itself. The important thing to remember when you try this on your own, is to be patient and just have fun. Tune in and see what's there. Then, give the information some time to fall into place.
Remember why your loved ones try to communicate: to help you realize this life is only a drop in eternity. To help you feel the comfort of their love, and to see you feeling joyful! Getting yourself in that space requires letting go of expectations. Ease up on your demands of your loved one to manifest what you want, and instead, make a fun game out of what they can do. Then, keep a little journal of the signs you receive and see if something keeps repeating itself.
A couple of my favorite card decks for playing with intuition are:
- The Enchanted Map by Colette Baron-Reid
- Psychic Tarot for the Heart by John Holland
Here's an Amazon list of what's available. You'll know the right deck for you when you see it!
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The Language of Spirit
"I learned that the world has a soul, and that whoever understands that soul can also understand the language of things." - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
The most persistent question I get asked about my work as a medium is, "How can I communicate with my loved ones who have passed?"
The answer lies within your willingness to learn about and try something new. The language of Spirit is much different than the way we communicate in the physical world, using our mouths to form words that are heard by someone's ears. When I was in school, I studied Spanish...
"I learned that the world has a soul, and that whoever understands that soul can also understand the language of things." - Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
One of the first books I read on my spiritual journey was The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho, and it was a great choice for a beginner. It's the story of a young man on a long journey who is learning the language of the Universe. If you are ready to learn more about Spirit communication, this is a great story to inspire your desire to understand signs and symbols.
The most persistent question I get asked about my work as a medium is, "How can I communicate with my loved ones who have passed?"
The answer lies within your willingness to learn about and try something new. The language of Spirit is much different than the way we communicate in the physical world, using our mouths to form words that are heard by someone's ears. When I was in school, I studied Spanish. On the first day of class, I wasn't yet ready to hear and understand a dissertation in that foreign language. But by the end of the week I had figured out how to say, "Hello!", "Goodbye", and "Where is the bathroom?" Just the basics. Funnily enough, my ex-husband was Belgian, and despite being divorced for a decade, I can still swear fluently in Flemish. (Tells you a lot about the marriage, eh?) Having spent a lot of time in Europe, I learned the frustration of being in social settings as a non-native language speaker. I had to be really alert, watch body language and listen for intonation since I didn't always readily understand the words being spoken.
The language of Spirit is nonverbal. Mediums have to develop their own relationship with those who are in Spirit to receive the information. Simply put, it is mental telepathy; pictures, images and thoughts. All of us do this constantly, but most people haven't really studied it. This is why we think of a person who is calling us right before the phone rings, or have a persistent urge to reach out to someone without knowing the reason why. Our Souls are beacons, constantly sending out signals to each other. The big question is, "How do we register those signals?"
A few years ago, I was conducting a Skype session for a woman in England whose husband had passed. During the communication, I saw images in my mind of the Hampton Court Flower Show. You might wonder how a medium living in the Upper Midwest of the USA knows about a flower show in London. Well, I have been there! In this particular case, I was the right medium for this woman because of my knowledge and experience. Another great example of how this works happened during a phone session last week. I was connecting a couple who had been deeply in love when I saw the image of a woman I know named Stephanie. The woman I was speaking with confirmed her friend named Stephanie had to break the news to her that her fiancee had died. Again, through mental telepathy, this was her fiancee's way of confirming he was aware of events that had taken place after his passing. It was also a way for him to thank Stephanie for the great care she took in handling the sad task of sharing that news.
The language of Spirit is subtle one: signs in nature, the words of a stranger, mental images, feelings and sensations. The language of the Soul is universal; free from the barriers of language and the physical body. It is knowing of sorts. And like any other relationship, it takes patience and trust to develop.
If you want to learn how to communicate with a loved one in Spirit, you have to be willing to study, try something new and educate yourself. Read lots of books! Visit spirituality centers and see what kind of awareness classes they offer. Your results will be as good as the work you are willing to put into it.
Being a professional medium, I am adept at practicing mental telepathy, and while that's great when I am working, it can cause some interesting circumstances for me in my normal life. Recently, while I was getting a manicure by a Vietnamese nail technician who was chatting in his native language with a coworker about the weather, I unwittingly contributed to the conversation. Stunned, he looked up at me and said, "You understand Vietnamese?" I was as surprised as he was! I said, "Just a little." and vowed to keep my mouth and brain shut from then on. Ha!
Have fun with your experimentation. Your loved ones in the Spirit world know you are just learning and want the process to be joyful for you. Try not too be too serious; you may even want to make a bit of a game out of it. When it comes to communicating with Spirit, our Souls are beacons, constantly sending out messages to one another. With dedicated practice, we can all begin to receive those messages with crystal clarity.
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Five myths about mediumship revealed!
Here's my top list of of the fishy (and sometimes funny) issues about mediumship and Spirit communication I deal with often. In the world of the paranormal there are a lot of theories; which ones are worthwhile and which ones are useless? This article will help you understand the downfalls of "certified mediums" and the reasons why some Spirits do or do not come through in a group session.
Myth One: Your loved ones jump all over me at the grocery store or visit me at home when I'm just relaxing with my family. And my personal favorite: Myth Five: Your loved ones in Spirit are with you ALL of the time.
Here's my top list of of the fishy (and sometimes funny) issues about mediumship and Spirit communication I deal with most often.
Myth One: Your loved ones jump all over me at the grocery store or visit me at home when I'm just relaxing with my family.
People have often said to me, "I told my Dad to go find you when he died!" Wait a minute....why would you tell your Dad to enter the home of someone he doesn't know? Did he do that when he was alive? Another classic situation occurs when someone asks,"So, what do you do for a living?" My response is usually met with, "Oh my gosh, do you see anyone with me?" or "You're crazy!"
While it has happened that a random soul has shown up to urge me to deliver a message, I can count the times over the years on one hand. It simply doesn't work that way, especially for a full-time medium. In order for me to give someone a great reading, I need to tune into that energy, and that is simply not happening when I am cooking dinner, surfing the internet or having coffee with a friend. Reality TV shows have led people to believe the life of a medium is one full of constant connections regardless of the who, what, where or when. That Spirit just HAS to deliver a message right now, in the middle of aerobics class. What everyone really needs to bear in mind is that reality TV is meant to be entertaining, and producers carefully coordinate situations for that purpose. Filming permits are required and often people are cast into certain situations because they have a dramatic story. All that glitters is not necessarily gold.
I occasionally meet someone with the ability who says they are being bombarded all day by errant spirits. My response it to tell that person that perhaps they need to explore their ability. I know first-hand, if a medium is using the ability to help people consistently, there will be no need for their dinner to be disrupted so they can give readings then, too. It's largely a matter of discipline and choosing to tune in at the appropriate time.
I also don't have the ability to sit around and chat all day with my deceased relatives. I am not objective, and like you, I will book a session with a medium or work on my own to recognize their signs and subtle communication.
Myth Two: A "certified medium" is guaranteed to give you a great reading.
This is a question that I feel truly needs to be addressed, even knowing I am likely to upset some of my peers. First of all, mediumship is not a regulated industry. We don't have to pass a Board Exam and go to school in order to open a business. Most mediums claiming to be certified have simply paid for and attended a series of classes. Sometimes the teacher is famous. The testing for these certificates is lenient, unregulated and ungoverned. The teacher alone determines whether the medium passes. The complaints I receive most frequently from clients about poor previous readings involve this type of "certified medium."
Many intuitives have some ability, but not enough to consistently (and I mean 99.99% percent of the time) make accurate, validating connections. An 80% success rate is not enough when you are responsible for someone's emotional well-being. There are also mediums that are certified and tested scientifically in blind studies by the Forever Family Foundation and other comparable scientific studies. The mediums do not pay for this certificate and it is difficult to achieve. The downside is that it is a slow process therefore not enough mediums are able to be tested and funding for the program isn't abundant. But that is one certificate that should be held in esteem.
My advice is this: if you are researching for a mediumistic reading, look for someone with years of experience and large quantities of positive feedback. Get referrals from people you know. Attend a public event first to see them work. When you visit a medium's website and their tagline or bio is a list of who they have studied with or are certified by, consider for a moment, why are they using someone else's name to describe themselves? If a medium is good, you'll be reading lots of reviews from their clients--not a list of who they have taken classes from. Don't judge a medium by their Facebook following, either. Large numbers of followers doesn't indicate any ability beyond knowing how to maximize exposure on social media.
As a side note, in the UK, getting certificates by the Spiritualist National Union for different aspects of mediumship is actually a very rigorous process. This sort of regulation doesn't exist in the U.S., but there are smaller organizations such as the Forever Family Foundation that are making great strides to recognize truly capable mediums.
Progress is being made, but it is ultimately up to the potential client to decide if a certificate seems holds any merit.
Myth Three: You have to wait a specific amount of time after a loved one's passing before you can have a session because the Soul has to get adjusted before they can communicate.
Completely untrue. I have received validating messages from Souls who have passed over within a few hours. The right time to schedule a reading is when you feel able to handle the emotions that arise from the communication. There is a school of thought that you should also be in a place of acceptance of the passing before you have a session. This to me is a flexible area. I see no benefit for the newly bereaved to wait a set amount of time to receive the communication from a child or spouse that could possibly save them from extreme despair. A reading will not remove your experience of grief, but it may remove the fear of the separation. You will know your loved is spiritually close and always will be. You will know they are still alive. People who get thrown into grief without a prior knowledge of spiritual connections stand to benefit the most from experiencing a connection. If you have ever had a validating session, then theoretically you know the afterlife is real and you can handle subsequent losses more gracefully. This is the reason why I offer High Priority sessions at all times for those who are newly bereaved and have never experienced the communication before. The sooner, the better.
Myth Four: Only strong, loud spirits come through in a group sessions.
Again, there is no evidence to support this. I have connected with hundreds of very shy, quiet Souls in group sessions. Mediums are not in charge of who comes through; it is organized by our Spiritual helpers based on who is in the audience. It is Spirit's intention that the messages which come through touch the hearts of everyone present. Likewise, the most bereaved person doesn't necessarily receive the connection either. It's a group, and a group experience will address the overall needs of everyone present.
Myth Five: Your loved ones in Spirit are with you ALL of the time.
Okay, this isn't a myth. It's true. Your loved ones are with you 24/7 especially when you are in the bedroom and bathroom. :-)
Joking! But, I get asked that ALL the time! People worry they have no privacy. Even while alive, we are not with anyone 24/7. Our children go to school. Our spouses go to work. We move out from our parents homes. Yes, your sacred, private moments are yours. No worries there anymore, okay? The most important thing to know is that Spirit is with you in the moments when you need them most.
As you seek answers in your own life and in the midst of your own losses, here's hoping this myth-busting helps you on your journey.
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Earth Angels
Has anyone ever said to you, "Wow, that was just what I needed to hear today." Or, "You have such great timing!"
We all know about angels: beings of light who are helping humanity. But how about Earth Angels: those special people who walk the Earth by day, sharing the light and love of the Divine with everyone they meet?
You are an Earth Angel. Yes, you.
Has anyone ever said to you, "Wow, that was just what I needed to hear today." Or, "You have such great timing!"
We all know about angels: beings of light who are helping humanity. But how about Earth Angels: those special people who walk the Earth by day, sharing the light and love of the Divine with everyone they meet?
You are an Earth Angel. Yes, you.
Let me explain a little insight from loved ones in Spirit that will help you understand how you are used to bring love into this world.
Imagine a scenario where you are in line at the grocery store waiting to check out and having a teary day. It's one of those marker days, maybe the birthday of a loved one in Spirit. You can't stop thinking about them or feeling the pain of the physical separation. Let's imagine it's the birthday of your father, Michael. As you stand there getting lost in your grief, a young woman gets in line behind you. You look in her shopping cart, and there is a birthday cake that says,"Happy Birthday, Michael!" It almost takes your breath away. The stranger smiles at you, and starts making small talk about the party she's having that afternoon. You end up telling her it is your deceased father's birthday, too and his name was also Michael. The next thing you know the two of you are chatting like old friends about your fondest memories of your fathers. In that moment, this unsuspecting woman is your personal Earth Angel.
Who do you think inspired her to to choose your check out line from the seven that were open? Chances are, it was someone in Spirit who knew you needed some sign of comfort and remembrance today.
Many times we have random, but persistent thoughts of a friend. Unsure of why this person comes to mind, we often just pass the thought off in our busyness instead of acting on it as a signal to reach out. When we realize the Soul of a friend's loved one who died can influence our thoughts and encourage us to reach out, we can begin to act our part as Earth Angel to each other.
I have a friend who lost a daughter named Molly a few years ago, and Molly is one of the greatest spiritual influencers I've ever met. Last year I was meeting a friend in Ireland and when we reunited she said to me, "I bought you this little gift, I just felt really drawn to it and I know it's not how you spell your name." She handed me a beautiful, bright blue, heart-shaped crystal with the name "Molly" on it. Instantly, I knew it was a gift from Molly to her mom. That shade of blue was Molly's color. The anniversary of Molly's passing was just a few days away and this was her way of reaching her mom through a series of Earth Angel kindnesses.
It works both ways, too. A few weeks ago I got an email from my friend who told me she sensed Molly's presence around and couldn't stop thinking of me, so she gave in to the thought and sent me a quick note asking how I was doing. Well, it's no surprise that I was having a difficult day. My heart warmed up instantly and I felt loved. I felt touched that Molly would reciprocate the favor by encouraging a bit of support for me when I needed it.
I could go on writing for days about examples of people who show up at exactly the right moment with some sort of Divine message, but I think you get the idea of what I'm trying to convey.
You have the potential to be an Earth Angel to many. All you have to do is pay attention to the random thoughts that encourage you to reach out to someone. You don't need to know why, all you need to do is let someone know you are thinking of them. That they are remembered. That they are loved. Put away your phone while you are in line and talk to the people around you. The majority of the messages you will receive from loved ones in Spirit will fall out of the mouths of the people around you, not during a visit with a medium. Pay attention and see what Spirit is trying to communicate to you through a repeated message. Is everyone telling you the same thing, over and over? Take heed and take heart. You are deeply loved, and Spirit will always find a way to remind you!
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Grief and the Soul's Journey
Here's a question I'm often asked:
When a loved one passes, can our feelings of grief and loss hold them to us or impede their journey in any way?
To the best of my knowledge and experience, the simple answer is no. Your feelings cannot alter the course of another Soul's eternal path. If that were possible, wouldn't they still be alive, right in your arms where you want them?
Here's a question I'm often asked:
When a loved one passes, can our feelings of grief and loss hold them to us or impede their journey in any way?
To the best of my knowledge and experience, the simple answer is no. Your feelings cannot alter the course of another Soul's eternal path. If that were possible, wouldn't they still be alive, right in your arms where you want them?
And if it were possible, wouldn't we also change the Soul's journey for loved ones who make destructive choices while here on earth? Anyone who has had a family member fall into substance addiction or abusive behavior has had to learn the very difficult art of letting go. It requires acceptance that we cannot control anyone's journey but our own. And so it is with our loved ones in Spirit.
Feelings of grief and despair are completely normal after a loved one dies. While we are experiencing these emotions, they feel foreign, terrible, unwanted, and we'd give nearly anything to rid ourselves of the pain. But none of those feelings can change the fact that grief is the normal reaction to the losing someone we love. Coping with those feelings as they arise on a day-to-day basis is difficult; accepting that your feelings are natural can help.
You are not alone in your sorrow. Grieving is a part of loving. The pain of loss is felt by all of humanity.
Yes, we feel the loss deeply. Yet our loved ones who have passed into Spirit are eternally connected to us through the bonds of love. No matter how many seasons pass, that bond always remains. Even if you recover. Even if you move on. Even if you find love with someone else. Even if you have another child. We are bound to time as a form of measurement here on the earthly plane, yet, in the eternal realm, our loved ones do not suffer from the same measurements. Our earthly lives are but a chapter in the whole story, and our loved ones in Spirit are able to observe and be aware of us from their dimension. The pain of separation we experience here on earth, is not their experience.
It's okay to feel your grief, as lousy as it is. Every wrenching moment of it is justified by your love. But you must not give up hope; grief, like all things, changes over time. Often it is transformed into a new perspective, a goal, or a sense of purpose. In fact, in time, many people are able to see and share the unexpected gifts loss has brought to them, such as:
- deeper compassion
- a closeness to nature
- a desire to be of service
- tolerance for human differences
- the ability to let go of petty grievances
These gifts are the phoenix rising from the ashes of our loss. Clouded by our sadness, they can sometimes go unnoticed. But if we are open to the possibility that we can learn from our loss, that we can create good from our sorrow, we will come to see that our grief and our continuing connection to Spirit can inspire us to breathe light and life into places of the heart we thought were gone forever. Maybe it's your Soul's journey, maybe it's the journey of your loved ones in Spirit, and maybe it's your shared path. In truth, in the midst of your loss, know that there is no greater legacy you could leave for those you are bonded to through eternity.
I hope you'll join me for an intimate evening of Spirit communication and messages. Click to my "Events" page to see all the cities.
©Mollie Morning Star 2014 Short excerpts of this article may be shared on the internet provided a live link back to this original source is used. Reproduction in print is prohibited.